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Well I love my fiance. Don’t get me wrong. My whole life is him. We’ve been through so much and have come so far. We lean on onr another and are always there for each other. We live together, and one really important thing, we have been actively trying for a baby. Then BAM! Here these feelings come out of nowhere and now I’m stuck in this predicament. There are a lot of differences between these two men and could my ex adjust to the life me and my fiance live… could he put up with who I am? Because he couldn’t then. I’m not into the whole break up then make up thing. If I’m with someone, I am serious and committed. He cheated on me then, so what’s to say he wouldn’t do it now? My fiance is either at work or at home with me so I know he is not like that at all. It’s such a hard situation because, how do I choose between what I’ve known and loved for years and someone whos past isn’t the best and I really don’t know who he is anymore?

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Right. Sorry. I am 19, my fiance is 20 and my ex is 19.

My ex and I dated in the summer 2009 and were off and on for about two years. We never really had a stable going relationship because we were always breaking up and making up. I’ve always wanted something real and committed from the beginning but I have to take into consideration that everyone is not me and we were young. Well towards the end of the rrelationship, my ex told me he was on punishment and couldn’t talk or come out and so I got lonely and felt more like a friend than a girlfriend to him and that’s where my fiance came in. As soon as I met my fiance in 2011 I broke off what me and my ex had immediately. He was giving me all the attention in the world and just filled that voided space I had. He made me forget about my ex for awhile but eventually the feelings came back. We got into an argument twice about me talking to m ex but I never pursued anything..

I’ve noticed that I feel “bored” foresay with my life. I work 6 days a week and feel as if I do the same thing every day of my life. I also feel like my fiance doesn’t give me enough affection. I’ve always been the one for lovey-dovey things and romantic gestures and to want someone to be proud of me and show me off and my fiance isn’t that type of person. Don’t get me wrong, he shows me he loves me and kisses me n stuff but not the way I would like him too and I’ve tried talking to him about it but he’s never changed it so I doubt he will now. We’ve been together for 3 and a half years and I’ve never been bought some flowers or even a card.

Now I remember my ex to be the lovey-dovey, affectionate, show off type person so I think that is what attracts me back to him when I’m feeling neglected in my current relationship. But it’s like how do I chose to put my life on the line for someone I don’t know anything about anymore? My bf and I have lived together since 3 months after we met and he’s all I know.

What do I do?! I don’t want to hurt either one let alone hurt myself. 🙁 🙁 🙁

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