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So I did and I almost could hear her scream of excitement all the way over here, by figure of speech. Silly me, worrying about what she’d think of it.

Thanks again.

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Any suggestions, though?

She’s always kinda jokingly inviting me over (and I do it too, sometimes) so last time I told her that the next time she’d do that, I actually would come over. She jokingly asked me replied with “why, do you really wanna fuck that badly? 😀“, to which I said I don’t need to go that distance to fuck (might’ve wanted to pick my words more wisely?). She then told me she’s been wanting to visit my country for years that she “didn’t realize i had similar feelings about hers”. Almost immediate responses (just to say that she didn’t take 5 minutes to think about what she wanted to say, this whole thing was over in 3 minutes.
I tried to save the day by telling her that I have been wanting to visit her country for some time, but mostly to show that she should be careful what she asks for, because it just might happen ‘ 😉 ‘ (poor choice of words again?), before changing the subject.

But this totally left me in the dark. Like.. was this her getting into her shell? Is she even into me?
She’s physically attracted to me, of that I’m sure. That doesn’t interest or help me a lot at the moment.

So the day after (today) I took some distance. No virtual snogging, sweettalk, the usual, just like ‘normal’ friends would text (which, in my terms, is dialing it down immensely). . And I deliberately turned off my phone most of the time today so we exchanged maybe a quarter of the amount of messages we usually do. She tried everything though.
And now I can tell from the ‘tone’ of her messages/chats she’s kinda upset about something…this?
On top of that her laptop just got fixed today after being at the shop for a week so we’d finally be able to chat again but I met up with friends tonight, exactly to have an excuse for not having to talk to her. It’s mean but I needed to get her out of my head for a while.
I got a week off next week, needed a vacation, had the idea of going there and following your advice… didn’t think the rest of it through because I tried figuring out how she’d feel about that first and for that I’ll refer to the first part of this post. Yet another time I told her (after a joke-invite) she shouldn’t freak out if I actually would one time and she said she wouldn’t.
Confused much?
She’s usually quite busy in the evenings so surprising her is not really an option and I’m afraid that would come off as creepy/freakish anyway…

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I guess I’ve known all along but just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you, very clear and straight to the point, it helps.

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I wanted to add this, too:

She called me on skype last night around 22h to talk a bit, and we did. She seemed fairly happy and content. So about 40 mins into the conversation I got a text from someone asking if they could come over, of which I informed her. She replied jokingly insinuating she thought it was a booty call. I waved it away but didn’t confirm nor deny her suspicions. The conversation went on until she suddenly let me go to be with my company (which arrived seconds later). So today she texts me she got a really shitty night and cried for a couple of hours before putting on a movie and falling asleep, but that’s it. Asked her about why, didn’t want to talk about it. I’m not gonna drag it out of her so I didn’t insist.

Am I seeing things? Or could she be upset because she thought it was a booty call? Mind you she was very happy and lively before we ended the call… For now I’m assuming she got bad news from someone else or something, or maybe she just felt kinda down. I mean, I don’t think she expects me not to see other people as long as we’re living 1000 km away from eachother?
Although I’m seriously doubting that now.

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What I want to do?[i] Dating her[/i], to me that sounds like the best thing that could happen, so if I could have my way, that would be it.

Although I like to keep both my feet on the ground and not get my hopes up, which is why I’ve been trying to keep my cool and treat her like I would any other friend when we’re talking, but with sweet talk, compliments, the occasional sexual innuendo and sometimes a term of endearment thrown in, which I’ve been stepping up a bit very recently to try and get a reaction.

Funny, today we were talking and we hit the subject of me not being good at getting subtle hints and messages. She “[i]begged to differ[/i] 😉“

But just finding out what she [b]really[/b] wants, actually, would be a great help in itself

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