[canadiangurl3006]

And no, my husband hasn’t done anything wrong at all… I have projected my own thoughts/things onto him before though, because of my own fears and insecurities. Like thinking that when he sees nudity in a movie he automatically stores it in his mind to fantasize about a whole bunch later.

I’m part scared of losing him (driven by insecurities) and jealous of his attention. I know, rationally, both are ridiculous because he loves me like crazy. I get threatened easily, but it doesn’t happen often within our circle of friends (but I will get a little uncomfortable if a girl in a tight dress, with her hair and makeup done walks by). I would consider myself a pretty girl with a decent/okay body, but I’m not perfect in any way, got a lot of flaws. I compare myself a lot to others (a habit I’ve been trying to break for years) so pick up right away on people I feel threatened by.

But I read a quote very recently that was helpful… it went like this “The thing about beauty is that we are taught that it applies in the same ways to everyone, and that we can all see it the same and judge it the same and experience it the same and value it the same”

You also hear all the time that men find confidence very sexy, and I know that’s quite true of my husband… Just gotta find a way to develop mine a bit more. Any tips of confidence boosting strategies? I’m a big fan of lingerie for that — always find that wearing sexy undies underneath my clothes can make any bad day much better 😉 just kind of makes me feel a little special.

Thanks!

[canadiangurl3006]

Thank you this was really helpful! My thoughts may sound a bit extreme, but when you don’t really talk to.anyone about it for an extended period of time, and let it build up underneath your skin, the thoughts just spiral. I really appreciate your thoughts and comments! Will be putting some of that into action!

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