Hey April! I’ve (20/f) been dating this guy(24/m) for about 6 months. In the first month he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, that he didn’t have the time and felt he wasn’t finanial stable-meaning he wasn’t able to buy random things and spoil me. However, we’ve been exclusively dating now and telling others we aren’t available. We both have conflicting schedules with school, work, etc. but we always make time to see each other at least once a week. Moreover, I could careless if he isn’t able to buy me random things. I want the label. I want to be able to call him my boyfriend and for him to tell others I’m his girl. We briefly talked about our status before, he just said we were practically an unofficial couple. Is it wrong of me to want this? It only has been 6 months….a contributing factor to my feelings would probably be of his reminders of the girls who hit on him at work, previous girls who tried to get at him, etc. I’m not jealous but if you constantly remind me that you can get anyone else, I’m not going to be secure about this relationship. Perhaps me wanting a label is from the need to feel secure about the relationship? If so should I bring up the relationship talk? It’s clearly bothering me but is it too soon? Am I just being insecure and overthinking? Thank you for your help.
