[lostchick45]

Hey April! I’ve (20/f) been dating this guy(24/m) for about 6 months. In the first month he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, that he didn’t have the time and felt he wasn’t finanial stable-meaning he wasn’t able to buy random things and spoil me. However, we’ve been exclusively dating now and telling others we aren’t available. We both have conflicting schedules with school, work, etc. but we always make time to see each other at least once a week. Moreover, I could careless if he isn’t able to buy me random things. I want the label. I want to be able to call him my boyfriend and for him to tell others I’m his girl. We briefly talked about our status before, he just said we were practically an unofficial couple. Is it wrong of me to want this? It only has been 6 months….a contributing factor to my feelings would probably be of his reminders of the girls who hit on him at work, previous girls who tried to get at him, etc. I’m not jealous but if you constantly remind me that you can get anyone else, I’m not going to be secure about this relationship. Perhaps me wanting a label is from the need to feel secure about the relationship? If so should I bring up the relationship talk? It’s clearly bothering me but is it too soon? Am I just being insecure and overthinking? Thank you for your help.

[Clara]

Please re-post this as a “reply” to the string of posts you’ve already started on this forum. That way I can see all your questions in one place — you’ll get a much better response from me, and anyone else who wants to chime in, that way! I’ll look out for the repost and answer you there. 😉

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[lostchick45]

Hey April, my other threads and questions won’t give a better background because it’s a different person. Thank you though

[Clara]

You’re very welcome! 😀

I always like to have one thread per person on this forum so things are less complicated, and you’ll definitely get better advice. 😀

If you’d like to repost your question on the first thread you started on this forum, I’m more than happy to answer the question there for you. 🙂

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[Anne]

You’re not wrong. What you just want is clarity about what you both really have, and you also want to know that you’re on the same page—plus a sense of reassurance. That’s valid, especially since you’ve been dating for 6 months already.
And it already came from him that it feels like you’re basically together anyway. So what other reason is there not to make it official?
You said yourself you’re not materialistic and that you just want the label. If he can’t even give you that, then maybe he’s not fully sure about you or the relationship yet.

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