[Harleyquinnx]

Thing is i’ve never been a relationship person myself until i met him for the last 4 years i spent avoiding getting into them myself into something serious and he came along and swept me off my feet. he admitted the idea of the relationship brings the fear of change…

We’ve had many a conversation about one and others friends we see how they lie to there partners or act like totally different people when there partners aren’t and are there.( he always brings me out with him and his friends i’ve insisted a few times he has nights with just the boys)

Tbh he gives me alot of what i’m looking for maybe he’s not the one maybe he isn’t. but i wont know til i make a decision. we both agreed that on our first date we didnt imagine us sitting together still 10 months later. he said he cared about me and enjoyed spending time with me and talked about letting it naturally progress and see what happens. who knows maybe it will blossom but i know better then to pin all my hope on the possibility of it as that will suck all the joy from what we currently have.

it was never my intent for it to come across as an ultimatum and i started the conversation saying it wasnt one it was more of an out if he wanted to walk away now and we could remain friends and from his reaction he understood that

A few weeks prior to this i had make a joke about him going off with someone else he asked if i was insecure enough to think he would do that to me after how long we’ve been dating. I tried to shrug it off and say it was none of my business but we where sitting in his car and he just turned to me and said “i would never do that to you. i’m not interested in anyone else. There hasn’t been anyone else. so you have nothing to worry about”

I’ll see how things are next time we are together

[Harleyquinnx]

i didnt see it from that perspective…

Maybe it would be a good idea to end it. Its hard because i like him alot but that cant be the sole purpose of continuing this

[Harleyquinnx]

Thank you for the reply 🙂

i appreciate your advice!

its so weird because he treats me like a gf. He said he cares about me and wants to continue what we are doing and see what happens because he wasn’t ruling out a labelled relationship.

I said the only way that would be possible is if there is noone else.. if the reason he hasnt thought about a relationship with me is because he is keeping his options open then there is no point continuing. he agreed to be sexual and emotionally monogamous.

Which makes it harder for me to wrap my head around it but i’m okay without the label. I just need to go contemplate on this hard about what i need to do.

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