Hi April,
Thanks for your reply, I should add some more detail. I was in a hurry posting earlier.
I am 33 year old male.
I appreciate your sentiments that we don’t always get what we want and I certainly don’t expect to get things completely my own way. It is always give and take of course, If this medical issue wasn’t here I’d of proposed by now and planning a wedding and a lifetime together, as it stands I am more free to leave if I wish to do so and I don’t want to jump into things further before having a better idea of what the future holds.
Regarding the biological children part, it then opens a whole new dilemma regarding miscarriages, women who suffer from Fibroids tend to be more likely to suffer miscarriages also. Of course that is hearsay and goes back to your original point, we can’t control these things. Before we even consider it, it is highly unlikely we could go to medical clinics to assist with fertility as it would run into the thousands and our income probably wouldn’t support it.
The sex issue as well is very complicated as you can imagine, with her medical condition it brings on pain, fatigue and this is after her bleeding stops which has on occasion lasted months sometimes. Due to its erratic nature it could be gone for a few days and then hit for weeks or months on end and causes huge amount of frustration for us both.
I’m very open minded and have suggested surrogate and she refused it, I’d also be open to having a more open relationship regarding the sex issue, involving another person to ease the frustrations 😉 that goes for both me and her, I don’t think she is open to it however as I have told her I was involved in swinging previously and any mention of another partner is met with a negative response.
As you can see I am at the end of my tether and I don’t know what else can be done to help things now, I’ve been extremely patient and given 3 years (just about) of my life to this relationship in the hope it’ll work out and right now today as it stands its the same situation as the day we started to try resolve this issue. I’m exhausted, worn out and at a loss where to go to try improve things quickly.
