[Honestdood]

Hi April,

Are you saying I should call this Thursday for next week?

What are your thoughts on one-night stands repeating and/or Ieaving the bar and becoming a dating relationship? I suppose bargaining for a consistent hookup relationship when drunk would be a poor decision for the present and future. Does the fact she said “this would be a one night stand” probably mean it would just be a one night stand? A part of me suspects minor manipulation on her part and I don’t think I mind, but it is definitely leading to these questions, as well as all of my other reasons.

I’ll think about it all either way.

Thank you so much again this has been a huge help.
Honestdood

[Honestdood]

Hi April,

Thank you for your feedback and suggestions, I’m definitely planning on calling.

I did have a question:

Do you think calling next week on Thursday would be too long of a wait? I was suddenly getting realizations as I thought about it a little more.

I definitely think she was a little taken aback at how different I looked after all that time(so pouncing quick may be good), at first, but she likes it I’m thinking, she “didn’t want to lose me” (I do know women better than to know I understand that, which is why I turned to the internet, if that makes sense), but she didn’t want to not be naked and cuddle too.

I am not decided yet what I want, actually. It would be unfair to her and me, I was starting to think when she first stopped the moment, if I didn’t do something more than a night. We’ve talked atleast 10-20 times over the past few years. That time when I was 20, she was wanting a condom so we didn’t get into it, and she didn’t want to wait for one. She moved back roughly 6 months ago. This time when we got together, we didn’t get to the condoms. I think it was the drunk kissing.

OH! Another question.

As put above, she said she hasn’t had a boyfriend for 3 years.

Before we met up, she had put a video from youtube that pretty much denounced having a boyfriend. This was actually like 3 days before I messaged her (did not know about it) And “one night stand” implies no future interaction… Or would she say that because it does not and she wants to discuss it… How would you ask that question indirectly/directly if you were me?

Does that mean it’s to the bar only? Or maybe the beach… Is she telling me something or nothing? I know these are impossible to directly answer but ya I am kind of interested in covering all my bases now and am feeling a little hazy (and obviously doubtful) on my own woman-knowledge after the past few years.

Oh and to back up to before any of last week occurred, back to the summer, when she called me on my birthday and jokingly said it’s my future husband (about me). I understand the joke but wanted to post it to kind of give you a better idea about her. Oh and you would never know it but she has a bunch of amazing tattoos in places.

I guess I’m asking, go do the hookup again, after this information and figure out a friendship continued from there? Would it be unfair to go on dates with her and my mindset, or asked another way, is the nondesire for a relationship compatible to dating.

Did she trick me into stopping the encounter..? She did say she didn’t mind the joke about stalking her. I’m kind of confused…

Huge thanks
Honestdood

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