Thanks for your response, April. There was no question that we were officially together in a monogamous relationship. It was not a situation where we were just dating. There was no confusion on his part, he just could not help himself. I guess he did still want this girl in his life in some fashion. She did not know about me either so he was leading her on. He says he didn’t know how to break it off with her because she kept inviting him over and he didn’t know what to say. He was with her when he met me, so it’s not like we were together for a long time and then he had a temporary lapse in judgement. He was doing this for months. I think you are right when you say this is a character issue. I want to be able to trust him again but I am struggling with that, because this has been a lie from the beginning. He really wants to fix things and it is so tempting to just go back to the way we were (without her in his picture of course). Do men who start out cheating often cheat again? I don’t want my heart to be broken twice.
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