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[quote=”April Masini”][quote]Do u think she tell lies just to keep me interested so that she can get attention from me ?[/quote]

Yes.

[quote]Do u think the way she is behaving is more disrespectful than say asking for nude pictures from guys ?[/quote]

I think that if someone is being disrespectful in a relationship, trying to figure out gradations of disrespect is a waste of time. Bottom line is that you should move on — you’re stuck. 😕

[quote]Also I have heard from some people who were in similar situations that when a girl starts to disprespect you publicly it means it is very much likely that she is about to dump you or at least cheat on you. Is that true in my case ?[/quote]

Could be. Disrespect in a relationship isn’t a great way to build a future.

Speaking of which…. it’s time for you to buy the book and read it! Now. Today! 🙂 It’s going to help you with all your questions. Here’s the link for [b]Date Out of Your League[/b]: [url]https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0974676306/qid=1075191419/sr=1-1[/url]

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Is that book only available online ?

I think she is one of those girls who keep a regular boyfriend because they see potential for serious relationship but aren’t fully sure yet. What is your opinion ?

What might be the reason that she lost respect for me. Is it because she developed interest in that guy or some other guys or some other reason for example she thought that I was going to love her in any condition ? What is your opinion
How should a guy like me earn respect from a woman and never let her be disrespectful. For example reward her good behavior and remove any rewards for bad behavior ?what do u advise ?

Also do u think it is normal for girls to hide their previous relationships from their current boyfriends and say about their ex that they were just friends . I mean is it a deal breaker if any girl tells u that – should u begin to date that girl ? I have seen many girls who do that especially if they want to remain friends with their ex boyfriends.

Aside from this case. Do u think a guy should not start dating a new girl if she disresepcts him in a similar way before their first date (assuming they like each other but aren’t dating yet) ? Would it be considered disrespect too if two people aren’t in a relationship yet but know each other and want to date ? In such case can a person change her behavior by perhaps gaining more life experience even if she were immature before due to some reason including her age- should a guy then consider her again in future if not currently ?

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[quote=”April Masini”]I think you should buy and read [b]Date Out of Your League[/b], a book I wrote for men who want to win with women. 😉 It has a lot of dating advice in it, and I think it will answer a lot of your questions and provide you with some good dating advice. Here’s the link to buy the book: [url]https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/date-out-of-your-league-april-masini/1016394885?ean=9780974676302&itm=1&usri=9780974676302[/url].

I hope that helps.

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Yes I will read that.

She always says that she wants to marry me. But as u said she is not being respectful so according to u chances are she is not interested in anything serious. Do u think she tell lies just to keep me interested so that she can get attention from me ?

Do u think the way she is behaving is more disrespectful than say asking for nude pictures from guys ? I have seen some girls who ask for nudes from strangers but also keep a serious relationship at the same time.

Also I have heard from some people who were in similar situations that when a girl starts to disprespect you publicly it means it is very much likely that she is about to dump you or at least cheat on you. Is that true in my case ?

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[quote=”April Masini”]I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to maintain contact after breaking up. It’s a lot harder to respect the break up when you do, and it’s a lot harder to feel single and move on, as well. 😉

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Yes it is not a good idea to continue meeting her.

Do u think she has the signs of an attention seeking whore type of personality ? what is your opinion. I am asking because I can identify attention seeking whores in future too and not repeat the same mistake with other girls .

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[quote=”April Masini”]I think her behavior has to do with eliciting attention that makes her feel good about herself.

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Do u think she has an attention seeking type of personality ?

I talked with her about dumping her. She was shocked and perhaps angry first but later understood that i was protecting myself here. She still wants to maintain contact with me and may be hang out, have sex . Do u think its a good idea ?

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[quote=”soundle”]You just understand your partner what she want?I think this is good for us. Positive visibility is important.[/quote]

She is an attention seeker that is what she wants. Even surrounded by so many people attention seekers cross the line for seeking attention.

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[quote=”April Masini”]I think her behavior has to do with eliciting attention that makes her feel good about herself.

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I think your opinion is correct because i have seen her flirting with many of her male friends in past without actually dating them or sleeping with them- she is an attention seeker. Yeah she is in search of a therapist who can solve her daddy issues and give her attention. I don’t think she has got any respect for me or even that guy that is why she behaves like flirting with both. In other words she is an attention seeking whore. In my opinion attention seeking whores are not faithful to most people- the only guy an attention seeking whore is faithful to is the one who creates challenges for her and then rewards/punishes her for her behavior.

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[quote=”April Masini”][quote]Yeah i know she is not a respect giving type as i can see from her recent behaviour – what do you think does this guy has to do with her disrespectful behavior and her growing interest in him ? [/quote]

Nothing. I think she is responsible for her own behavior.

[quote]Do u think she actually cheated or is she just trying to make me jealous or is she trying to seek revenge by pissing me off or is she trying to say indirectly that she is also interested in dating others at the same time .[/quote]

Does it matter? That was rhetorical. In fact, it doesn’t matter. The bottom line is that she’s not a great match for you.

[quote]Also is it possible that she is actually dating that guy or is she friends with benefits or just friends with him. [/quote]

Yes.

[quote]What does she actually want from me – she said she doesn’t want me to leave. [/quote]

I don’t know — she’s not the person writing to me. You are. The question should be, what do [i]you[/i] want from a woman in a relationship?

[quote]And yeah she is 18. I would be intertested in knowing about her behaviour so that I can better understand things in my future relationships with anybody. What is your opinion about these issues.[/quote]

If you have a specific question, I’m happy to answer it. I’m not sure what your question is, here.

[quote]As far as the character of the guy is concerned he doesn’t seem to be very serious with the girls he hangs out with. My gf’s female best friend was also interested in him and my gf described them as a potential couple few months ago but he didn’t show much interest in that girl. He in my opinion hangs out and flirts with many girls. Even a month before he used to use the word ” bud” for my gf even when they were talking with each other online in some separate chat I am not in.I don’t think he is much serious about my gf – I don’t know for sure what she thinks about . One idea did came in my mind is that she probably has low interest in me and high interest in that guy that is why she took those pics- may be it doesn’t have to do with making me jealous – may be she doesn’t have interest in me and why would she respect anybody she has no interest in. He lives in another city but came to her city for some work and after about three weeks she takes such pics with him- may be it has to do with her growing interest ( one sided) in him after some possible cheating .May be it was his idea to take such pics to piss me off. I dont think she even has that much respect for him because she is openly having a relationship with me too and he knows it. What is your opinion ?[/quote]

As I told you before, my opinion is that she doesn’t respect you and isn’t interested in a serious relationship with you, judging from the behavior you’ve written about. 🙁

[quote]My girlfriend jokes with me a lot and likes my sense of humour. She has not much complained about the romance either and says that I am very romantic. When I asked her make things clear that she is just friends with him then she said in online group chat with friends (where he was also present ) that he never had a chance and also jokingly said these side hoes should stand on the side. Is there any problem in my behavior which compelled her to act like that ? I am asking so that I don’t repeat such mistakes in future with any girl.[/quote]

The only problem with your behavior is that you’re ignoring the fact that a woman disrespects you and acts in an immature fashion — and you’re hanging in there, waiting for her to change. The opportunity for change is not hers. It’s for you to make changes in your own life. 😉

[quote]She does lie to me because when I asked her about her ex boyfriend who some mutual friends say was her boyfriend- she said she never dated him.[/quote]

Why would you want to be with someone who lies to you? Time to move on. 🙂

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Thank you. That makes it clear she is not interested in any serious relationship with me or perhaps that guy also. Also I think she doesn’t have any select for me or even that guy that is why she is behaving like a slut with that guy while at the same time doesn’t want to leave me. What is ur opinion ?
Time to dump her. I made up my mind before to dump her But I preferred advice from u first which I got now.

Thanks again !

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[quote=”April Masini”]It doesn’t sound like she’s very respectful, or even all that into the relationship she has with you. And as you describe it, all I hear are the problems. It doesn’t sound like there’s a lot of fun or even love between the two of you. From everything you’ve written, it seems like you could better — find someone who wants a monogamous, committed relationship — elsewhere. 😉

I don’t think that age differences are a big deal — but when you say that she’s “approximately” 18 😕 I’m thinking she’s probably 17 — and you’re 29. That’s not so much a big age difference as it is a big life experience difference. Dating a teenager, when you’re almost 30, is going to get you some immature behavior in some cases — which I think you’re seeing here. Maybe look for someone who’s got more life experience, and is more clear on wanting the same type of relationship you want, next time around. 😉

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Yeah i know she is not a respect giving type as i can see from her recent behaviour – what do you think does this guy has to do with her disrespectful behavior and her growing interest in him ? Do u think she actually cheated or is she just trying to make me jealous or is she trying to seek revenge by pissing me off or is she trying to say indirectly that she is also interested in dating others at the same time .Also is it possible that she is actually dating that guy or is she friends with benefits or just friends with him. What does she actually want from me – she said she doesn’t want me to leave. And yeah she is 18. I would be intertested in knowing about her behaviour so that I can better understand things in my future relationships with anybody. What is your opinion about these issues.

As far as the character of the guy is concerned he doesn’t seem to be very serious with the girls he hangs out with. My gf’s female best friend was also interested in him and my gf described them as a potential couple few months ago but he didn’t show much interest in that girl. He in my opinion hangs out and flirts with many girls. Even a month before he used to use the word ” bud” for my gf even when they were talking with each other online in some separate chat I am not in.I don’t think he is much serious about my gf – I don’t know for sure what she thinks about . One idea did came in my mind is that she probably has low interest in me and high interest in that guy that is why she took those pics- may be it doesn’t have to do with making me jealous – may be she doesn’t have interest in me and why would she respect anybody she has no interest in. He lives in another city but came to her city for some work and after about three weeks she takes such pics with him- may be it has to do with her growing interest ( one sided) in him after some possible cheating .May be it was his idea to take such pics to piss me off. I dont think she even has that much respect for him because she is openly having a relationship with me too and he knows it. What is your opinion ?

My girlfriend jokes with me a lot and likes my sense of humour. She has not much complained about the romance either and says that I am very romantic. When I asked her make things clear that she is just friends with him then she said in online group chat with friends( where he was also present ) that he never had a chance and also jokingly said these side hoes should stand on the side.

Is there any problem in my behavior which compelled her to act like that ? I am asking so that I don’t repeat such mistakes in future with any girl.

She does lie to me because when I asked her about her ex boyfriend who some mutual friends say was her boyfriend- she said she never dated him.

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