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Thanks April.

I think you are spot on with your assessment, unfortunately. She of course denies any insecurity, jealousy, worry, desire to control etc. I think she believes it too. It’s pretty hard to convince someone in denial.
As for the clue at the start of the relationship, I also agreed that it was a bit much, but agreed as everything else seemed to be great and I thought I could accept this one request. Unfortunately over time more issues have revealed themselves.

Thanks again for taking the time to respond.

[tsadah]

Thanks. I do avoid talking about them. She requested that at the start and I respected that and complied completely. I have also tried to reassure her but she just doesn’t accept it. There is no reason at all for her to think I am still stuck in the past. In fact I asked her if the diary and photo episode hadn’t happened would she have any reason in 10 months to think I was not 100% committed to her, and she said no. Unfortunately she is quite emotional and she tends to very illogical and unreasonable when she gets like this. I really can’t see a way out of this lock unless she has a big change of opinion, but even then it seems to be a symptom of a deeper issue that might cause more problems down the road.

[tsadah]

Thanks for the reply. We have talked so much about this and I have tried to reassure her, but every discussion just degenerates into her saying that I care more about pieces of paper than her and that I’m stuck in the past. I’m not averse deleting certain photos of ex girlfriends either, but her reasons bother me. A blanket ban is just so unreasonable in my opinion. Her thoughts on these issues make me worry about what might be next in future.

Would still like to hear some more opinions!

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