[Matty]

I would also like to know if it will be the right thing for me to cut contact with her…at least for a while..? Even though I miss her dearly everyday

[Matty]

Last week she wanted to meet up with me for coffee to say goodbye to me and our dog( I was reluctant but agreed) She was still wearing our ring that we bought together over a year ago….She sent me a photo in December saying that she wears it everyday. I asked her why and said that I do not wear mine as it has meaning to me and she wants to leave so there is no point to anything and her answer was that she wants that piece of me close to her everyday….So she keeps sending these mixed signals..until I told her the day she told me she took the job that I”m out and giving up. Then she told me its my choice and she will have to respect that. Nothing as my choice in the very first place..I walked out of the relationship later because I could see she wasn’t taking my feelings into consideration even though I was giving my all and could see she wanted to go to Thailand sooner or later it had been a dream of hers.

[Matty]

Thank you very much and it does make sense. We are both 30 years of age. I told her to go ahead and do the holiday without me because I felt that she did not take my feelings into consideration and that staying here with me and our friends here was simply not important enough..I also feel that if you really love someone enough and want to be with the person the way you say you do you will not leave that way. You will not leave everything and everyone behind. Yes after our initial relationship she might have felt lonely but at the time she was constantly surrounded by parties and her friends who she is very close with..As she still is and she keeps herself very busy. Also it confuses me because at the same time as sending out her resume she kept messaging me calling me baby saying how she loves and misses me saying how she wants me to know she didnt throw our love and our “little family”(We have a little dog together) away. Which I feel she did exactly that although I do wish her happiness in what it is she wants to truly do. It’s just very questionable because in the beginning I did not even look at her twice She eventually caught my attention and fell madly in love with me and I fell in love with her too after a few days. She kept saying for months how she couldn’t believe how lucky she is to have someone like me etc. I really believed it and we even talked about marriage someday….Its hard to not find fault in oneself….That feeling that you must have failed and couldnt have been good enough..That your person chose something else instead..and might never come back to the dreams you had..

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