Thank you so much for taking time to respond so thoroughly.
I do have another question about how to talk to him about the lack of sex in our relationship. Once in the past he did say his libido has shifted dramatically and that he has a difficult time maintaining an erection which I certainly I know is is the case and can understand and I know that there are things that can be done about this. But mention a doctor? No way. I can not bring up a doctor’s visit as he will NOT go to a doctor (he is 54 and probably should have a prostrate exam, etc….but gets very hostile when I suggest going to a doctor about anything…let alone sex.) He would definitely see this as an indication that I blame him for our lack of a sex life. He says its simply because I have a different view about sex than he does. And that once he went 2 years without it (of course this was when he was not in a relationship). When we first met, 6 years ago, the sexual aspect of our relationship was fine. It saddens me that he does not feel there is a problem, or that the problem is simply that I have different needs that he does and that there is, in essence, no need to meet them.
