[xyz05]

Thankyou ! The advice was appreciated.

[xyz05]

To be honest, he has tried a lot of things over the years. But nothing materialises . He has been trying, but since he hasn’t spent much time on getting a good qualification, academically, it’s been tough. Something works out for a few months, and then just blows with one complex situation.
I really do not want to move on. Whenever I see my future, I never picture it without him. I’ve been witness to a lot of “not so loyal” relationships, and I feel great to have found a man that does not ever thinks about betraying me, or ever has, and I am not talking just cheating.
Coming from a background where generally your parents fix up your marriage, and if you want to marry for love, you have to convince your parents how he’s the right one for you. The essential thing for them being a financially stable person/family.
And obviously it matters what your family thinks about him. I do not want to start a new life by upsetting anyone.

Looks are not that big of a deal breaker, because I know , with just a tad bit effort, it will be fine.
I am a sucker for love, compassion, loyalty which I get from him. But for us to have a family together, I also want him to be a strong man who can assure me that if ever we land up in jeopardy , we both can take care of the family collectively.
Short temper, is a concern, but he has not done anything yet, that would be considered very abusive, just yelling is something we both do. He just tends to get upset more often. I am just concerned that are the pros big enough to cover the cons to lead a happy future together.

I really want this to work, probably just seeking someone to say it will get better with time and a little bit of luck.

[xyz05]

Thanks for the reply.

I am 22 and he is 28. We are not American/Europeans, we come from a country where an average age to marry for a woman is 23-25 and for a man is 28. There’s more of a societal pressure. But I am happy settling down in 2-3 years.

Would really appreciate a suggestion, thanks.

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