[AustinLee]

Im on day two not talking to my ex. Its very hard, I just want to here her voice. I ahve sent her little emails letting her know Im still thinking about her but nothimh about our relationship. She responded once and said she secretly smiled.

[AustinLee]

Thank you again for all your insight. I have talked to family and only she is my best friend. I have mistakes along the way durring our breakup but I hope to improve and be a stronger man. I screwed up tonight when she called me for help on her studio AC and asked if she could see us ever being together again, she responded with”I dont want say yes and cant see myself trusting you again. I deserve that and told her we wont talk again until she makes the call. I need to give her this space and better myself durring this time and be there for our kids.

[AustinLee]

It does help and thank you. Is there anything else I can do at this time for her. Is there anything I shouldnt do?

[AustinLee]

I have sold the jeep so she will never have to see it again. She has told me we can be friendly with each other but we are over. She says she is on dating sights trying to shop for a man who is more self motivated then me and who she doesn’t have to care for. In this she is right I need to be a better man.I am woringk on me to prove I can be that man she is looking for. we have talked a couple of times over the last week and we have sat together and been civil. I still go by the house and do chores to help her and stop by her business to fix things that need to be fixed. I also have taken her car to be cleaned which she appreciates. Im visiting my father for two weeks in the keys to give some more space she has asked for. we have talked about the kids but not about us. I told her I missed her and the kids and asked if she missed me and she said yes and no.

I love her with every part of my heart. I Know what I did was wrong and she told me she never thought in her wildess I would ever do this. She also has said she is haapy being single and never wants a man living with her again and being part of the kids life except for me. Im doing all I can to keep busy but I think about her everyday. Im going to therapy and taking AA classes to try to help me with every problem I have. She has said that maybe if I become a more stable man who is self motivated like the “PHD’s on the dating sites she is dating I could give her a call if she hasnt found a new man.

These coments hurt and she knows it. Im not sure what she wants, but I dont want to lose her and my family. She wont see the therapist with me and refuses to talk about the possibility of us. What should I do? I cant quit on love and I quit on us. Is she truly done? After six years is it really that easy for her to move on? She seems so stong and I feel so weak.

[AustinLee]

The two of us have been together for six years. I am 32 and she is 36. She has 3 children from her previous relationship but to me, her and the kids I am their father. I love them and treat them as if they were mine. They call me dad and I see them almost everyday since the break up. Previous to the break up we had a great relationship. We were both deeply inlove with each other with minimal problems(or at least we both thought). We have small arguments about finance and children discipline just as any other relationship. Over the past three years I have been going to school and taking care of the children as a stay home dad. I recieved my degree in criminal just and recently graduated from the police academy. Over the past 6 months I have been unemployed and looking for a job. I recently got the opportunity to work with the Coast guard and have a interview next week with another agency.

We both quit drinking around 3 years ago and at the begining I was doing well, although I occasionly would stop for a beer once in a while. While in the acedemy I didn’t drink and when I first returned home I was sober for a while.. I love my kids and my family but had some troubles with being a stay at home dad. I just wanted to work. April 11 I went out and Had a drink by myself and ended up having more then one. I women across the bar came and sat next to me and begun to talk. We spoke for an hour and she seemed intrested in my stories was easy to talk to. She was not attractive was just easy to talk to. after another two hours I relized I needed to go home she followed me out to my car and kissed me and I kissed back. At this time my fiancé pulled up to see this all happening next to my jeep. As she pulled up and called my name I was stunned. “what just happened” my finace pulled away and I stood there stunned as the women continued to stand with me holding my hand. My fiance pulled back around to see this and was furious.

I went home to her angry and she asked me to get my stuff and move out. She packed me a bag and I went to a hotel. Since then I went to visit my mother in Cali to give her space but still called about every three days and we argued. I apologized and told her I know what I did was wrong and I have no excuse. I am sorry and have told her over and over. She asked me for space wich I am not the best at giving and I have tried. Upon my return (3 weeks later) she asked me to remove my name from any and all finances and lease we had together. I stayed at a close hotel to be close to the kids and see them everyday.

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