[angelacrk]

My boyfriend and I have been dating a year. Before the summer started he suggested talking a break because we would fight constantly and werent very happy. He said he wanted to find himself and what made him happy and see if he was miserable without me. So he suggested that the break be 3 weeks long. A day after the break started we saw eachother being miserable at the same party and he said he realized I made him happy so we called the break off and after that for two months we didn’t fight at all and it was the best it had been in months. So a few days ago us and all our friends and my sister went on a day trip. My sister and I got in an argument. we fight quite a bit. A few days later my boyfriend texts me and tells me I need to treat people better including him my sister and my mother. I treat him so well and would do anything for him so it’s not like I’m a bad gf. He also said he doesn’t know if we are meant for eachother and that I have no idea how to be social and he’s much more social and he keeps saying how he figured everything out because he went to some parties and talked to some people in college and decided he’s not going to care about anything anymore senior year and it’s up to me to fix this and I have untill the start of school to fix it or he’s going to leave me. All of this was out of no where. Many of his friends and mine hate him and they all say he doesn’t treat me well at all and with my mother and sister, we do fight but we know in the end we love eachother. Please help

[angelacrk]

[quote=”April Masini”]Got it, thank you for that information. It helps!

It sounds like you’re both teenagers and you’re involved with a guy who’s all over the map emotionally and he’s not taking good care of you or being respectful enough of the time to make you feel good about yourself or the relationship. He’s got all kinds of motivations for his behavior that aren’t all healthy — but the most important thing is that you stay with him in spite of these uncomfortable and unhealthy relationship dynamics. You have to ask yourself what [b]you’re[/b] getting out of this that’s making [b]you[/b] stay.

I think you already know what I’m going to say. 😉 You should do what’s healthy and find someone to date who is kind, respectful and less motivated by negative emotions. If you aren’t single, you can’t find someone else. And if you choose to stay with someone who’s unhealthy, hurtful and erratic, you’re making an unhealthy and unhappy choice for yourself. The ball is in your court.[/quote]

Thank you for the advice. I just have trouble standing up for myself and I think always doing what he wants and agreeing with him has made me not be myself and whether he realizes it or not he’s lost respect for me forming to his mold.

[angelacrk]

[quote=”April Masini”]How old are you both?

How long have you been dating?[/quote]

We’re both 17, dating for 9 months

[angelacrk]

We’re both 17 and I’ve been dating for 9 months.

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