[IllGiveItAShot]

Hi! I posted on here a few months ago but things have definitely changed since. Long story short i got dumped by my long term (almost 2 years) girlfriend because she lost interest and wanted out. Our lives were getting in the way of our relationship and it got really hard to see each other. After about 2 months she sent me a message saying that her parents had brought me up one day and were wondering how i was doing and that she had been thinking about me for the past few days, This made me a little excited so i asked her to hangout which really just re-opened the wounds. After that i stopped contacting her and really just tried to work on myself. I wished her happy birthday a few months ago but that was it. Then out of the blue she messages me saying that she misses me again and just wanted to check up on me and how i’m doing. So i replayed expecting a little conversation but all she said was that’s awesome ____ hope all is well just checking in. This made me pretty angry. Why does she go zero contact for months and then out of the blue just checks up on me. It seems really selfish to me to be honest. How should i be going about this?

Thank you!

[IllGiveItAShot]

I want us to start talking more often again and stop seeing each other once every month and a bit just for a casual lunch date. I want this to induce more contact i think is what i’m trying to say.

[IllGiveItAShot]

So she agreed to me taking her out for lunch…

I have met for lunch with her once before and it was really casual, both of us definitely felt a little nervous and what hurt me the most was that we had lunch and then just didn’t talk for a long time, well, till now actually. I want this to be productive but don’t really know how to go about it. Any ideas?

[IllGiveItAShot]

Ill give it a shot. Thank you! And you are right, the worst that could happen is that i get absolute closure.

[IllGiveItAShot]

You don’t think that is too risky? Is 5 months enough time to ask that or should I be playing it extremely casual?? Also after a month and a but of zero interaction would it be weird if I just came out of the blue to ask her out for a little birthday lunch?

When we intially broke up she said she doesn’t know what the future holds and has no idea if we get back together. A month after I asked her what she thought and she said she doesn’t know and needed time. She’s not giving me any closure but I feel like she might be interested in someone else.

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