[Marcus king]

My name is yousaf i like girl sometimes she ignore me when i look her she looks me back and go.when i pas her home she look me but then i look her she ignore me one time i touched her hand she says slowly leave me.how i make friend shp with her give me answer plz.i really like.

[Marcus king]

You’re doing great by taking things slow that’s exactly what you should be doing. You’ve just come out of a tough relationship, and you’re being careful, which shows real maturity.

Keep enjoying your new connection, but give it time before calling it a commitment. Think in months, not weeks. You want to see how this man handles communication, stress, and your life as a mom before going deeper.

As for your ex, stay calm and businesslike. Only talk about your son not your dating life. If he tries to provoke or guilt you, don’t take the bait. The more you protect your peace, the less power he has over you.

Let the new relationship grow naturally, one step at a time, and let your ex see that you’re focused on stability, not drama.

[Marcus king]

It sounds like you’ve got a lot of confidence in who you are and that’s a great start. But right now, you’re fishing in a pond that isn’t really yours. Hanging around a college where you’re not a student makes it hard to naturally connect with people, because they’re living a different daily rhythm.

Try putting yourself in places where you belong join a local club, gym, volunteer group, or take a class that interests you. That way, you’ll meet people who share your world and are open to new connections. When you focus on building your own life and happiness, dating opportunities tend to come more naturally.

You don’t have to chase it just put yourself where real connections can grow

[Marcus king]

It sounds like you’ve shared some fun and kind moments with him, but his “we’re friends” comment is the clearest signal in all of this. If he wanted more, he’s had several chances to make that move and hasn’t. The dinners, hugs, and kindness show he enjoys your company, but not necessarily in a romantic way.

At this point, it’s best to step back emotionally. Keep it light and friendly at the gym, but don’t initiate plans or reach out outside of that space. If his feelings shift, he’ll make it known. But right now, he’s keeping boundaries and you deserve someone who meets your interest with equal energy.

[Marcus king]

I get why you’re confused her actions say “relationship,” but her words and online profile say “not sure.” That’s hard, especially since you’ve already shown commitment by deleting your account and investing real time with her.

Here’s what’s likely happening: after being cheated on, she’s scared to label anything too soon. Calling you her “boyfriend” might feel like stepping into the same story that hurt her before. But keeping her profile up and saying it’s “for entertainment” that’s not fair to you either. It’s a safety net, and it tells you she’s not fully ready to close the door on other options.

You can’t force clarity, but you can ask for honesty. Calmly tell her you’re not asking for pressure or labels, just transparency. Say something like, “I really enjoy what we have, but I need to know if we’re building toward something exclusive or if I should also keep my options open.”

Then let her response guide you not her excuses, but her actions after that talk. If she values you and wants more, she’ll make that clear. If she keeps dodging, she’s showing you she’s not ready and you deserve someone who is.

[Marcus king]

Sweetheart, I can hear how much you’re crushing on this guy and honestly, that mix of nerves and excitement is completely normal. You sound thoughtful and self-aware, which is a great start.

Now here’s the thing: you’re right to be careful. Since he’s your TA, there are likely rules that forbid any romantic involvement while he’s teaching your class. That means no matter how interested he might be, he can’t act on it and you shouldn’t either until the semester officially ends and grades are submitted.

So for now, keep it friendly and professional. Enjoy your talks, let the connection grow naturally, but don’t cross that line yet. Once the class is over, then you can test the waters maybe send a casual message like, “Hey, the semester’s over! Would you like to grab coffee and talk birds sometime?”

As for the drawing it’s sweet and creative, but it might come across as a bit too personal before you know where he stands. Save that for later, when you’re sure there’s mutual interest.

stay patient, stay confident, and let time work in your favor. If he’s truly interested, he’ll be there when the semester’s done and you’ll know it.

[Marcus king]

Hey there sweetheart first off, thank you for the kind words! I’m really glad my book and advice have helped you. Now, about this man

You’re not crazy for feeling uneasy. When someone truly sees a future with you, they naturally include you in their plans they don’t leave you wondering or having to drag those conversations out of them.

Right now, it sounds like he’s doing just enough to keep the relationship steady sweet gestures, helping around, saying the right things but avoiding real steps forward. That’s a red flag, especially when paired with excuses like “waiting till next year” or “my ex won’t let you meet the kids.”

Here’s what I want you to do: pull your focus back to yourself a little. Don’t push the marriage topic. Instead, observe his actions does he *voluntarily

[Marcus king]

You’re not being too sensitive what you’re describing is emotional abuse. He’s tearing you down, twisting things so you feel guilty, and calling his cruelty “jokes” to escape blame. That’s not love.

Someone who loves you doesn’t insult you for fun, make you doubt your worth, or ruin peaceful moments just to feel in control. He’s using manipulation to keep you off balance tearing you down, then saying he loves you so you’ll stay.

You can’t “work through” this because the problem isn’t you it’s his need to hurt and dominate. The best thing you can do now is step back, protect your peace, and talk to someone you trust a close friend, family member, or counselor. You deserve to feel safe and respected, not constantly anxious or humiliated.

Please don’t blame yourself for his behavior. You’re not weak you’re waking up to the truth.

[Marcus king]

You’re not being too sensitive what you’re describing is emotional abuse. He’s tearing you down, twisting things so you feel guilty, and calling his cruelty “jokes” to escape blame. That’s not love.

Someone who loves you doesn’t insult you for fun, make you doubt your worth, or ruin peaceful moments just to feel in control. He’s using manipulation to keep you off balance tearing you down, then saying he loves you so you’ll stay.

You can’t “work through” this because the problem isn’t you it’s his need to hurt and dominate. The best thing you can do now is step back, protect your peace, and talk to someone you trust a close friend, family member, or counselor. You deserve to feel safe and respected, not constantly anxious or humiliated.

Please don’t blame yourself for his behavior. You’re not weak — you’re waking up to the truth.

[Marcus king]

Hey there, Rational Guy 🌙

Okay, first off thank you for writing such a thoughtful, honest message. You’re not some “college guy chasing a fling.” You sound grounded, emotionally aware, and genuinely drawn to this girl for real reasons. And that’s exactly why this needs a slow, confident touch.

Let’s unpack what’s really happening here.

She does like you. That’s clear.
You don’t “light up” talking about someone unless something inside you sparks when you hear their name. You made an impression a good one. But you also have to understand the timing: she’s just out of a 3-year relationship. That’s a long emotional chapter to close, and even if she knows that relationship wasn’t right, part of her is still adjusting to what “single” feels like again. You don’t want to be the guy who rushes into that mess you want to be the calm, confident energy that shows up after the dust settles.

[Marcus king]

It sounds like he enjoys your company and there’s definitely some level of affection, but whether he wants a deeper commitment is unclear. The “love you” could be a casual expression of affection, but without real commitment or emotional depth. If you’re looking for a more committed relationship, it might be time to have that difficult conversation with him, and if he’s not on the same page, then it could be time to move on and focus on finding someone who shares your values and goal

[Marcus king]

Yes… that’s exactly it. Right now, words alone can’t undo what he believes he saw. Even if you explain everything clearly, his mind may keep replaying the image, and his trust will be fragile.

The most powerful thing you can do is show consistency and calm over time: living responsibly, making mature choices, and letting your actions reflect your commitment and integrity. Chasing him or over-explaining can push him further away.

If he’s willing, therapy either together or individually can help him process the feelings and help you both navigate the aftermath. But ultimately, you can’t force him to believe or forgive; you can only control your own behavior, stability, and how you handle the situation.

This approach doesn’t guarantee reconciliation, but it protects your dignity, gives him space to heal, and positions you to come out stronger no matter what happens.

[Marcus king]

From what you described, it’s hard to say with absolute certainty, but we can break down the most likely perspectives.

From her perspective:

It could be innocent. She might just see him as a friend and genuinely wants to share something funny from work. Some people are casual about texting friends even when they’re married, especially if the topic is lighthearted.

It could be a subtle ego boost or testing the waters. Since she initiated contact while he’s on vacation with his family, there is a chance she enjoys that she can capture his attention even when he’s “off limits.” People sometimes enjoy small validation from someone they’re attracted to, even subconsciously.

It might indicate interest. Repeated initiation of contact, especially during a time when he’s focused on family, can sometimes suggest she’s curious about him beyond friendship. But it doesn’t automatically mean she’s planning anything; it could just be flirtatious behavior or habit.

Key indicators to watch for:

Is she consistent in initiating conversations, or was this a one-off?

Does she steer the conversation toward personal topics, emotions, or compliments, rather than just funny stories?

Does she express curiosity about his feelings or life outside work in a subtle way?

Summary: Most likely, it’s either casual friendly texting or a mild ego boost, with a possible hint of interest. It’s not necessarily a calculated move to “seduce” him, but it can indicate that she enjoys his attention and the connection.

[Marcus king]

You’re in a tough spot, but let me be blunt: your current approach is poisoning the relationship rather than fixing it. Here’s why:

Reading his emails without permission, even repeatedly, is not okay. It’s a breach of trust. You may feel validated by seeing things you don’t like, but every time you check his email, you reinforce secrecy, not honesty. It puts you in a constant state of anxiety, and he will sense the mistrust, even if he doesn’t know exactly what you’re doing. That tension is the real problem not just the emails themselves.

Now about him: continuing intimate emails with his ex sending love notes, sharing private thoughts, pictures that is not a healthy boundary. No matter how “logical” his explanations are, it shows he is emotionally involved with her in a way that undermines your relationship. A person truly committed to their current partner doesn’t maintain a “romanticized friendship” that includes declarations of love or sexual content.

Your demands that he tells her about your relationship or stops emailing are reasonable. A committed adult relationship should not coexist with emotional intimacy of that level with an ex. His refusal, coupled with lying about contact, shows he’s prioritizing the ex over your feelings.

Here’s what you need to do:

Stop checking his emails. It’s a trap that keeps you anxious and gives him evidence to dismiss your feelings. Your well-being depends on boundaries you can control.

Have a clear conversation. You need to sit him down, calmly and firmly: “I cannot continue in a relationship where you maintain this level of intimacy with your ex. It’s hurting me, and it’s hurting us. You need to choose: me, or this dynamic with her.”

Decide your limits. If he refuses to stop or set boundaries, the relationship is unlikely to be healthy or long-term. You are entitled to demand emotional safety.

Focus on yourself. Your life, studies, and peace of mind matter more than policing him or trying to “fix” the situation.

Checking emails is a temporary illusion of control. The real control comes from setting boundaries and insisting they’re respected. If he values the ex more than you, no amount of snooping will fix that and staying will only erode your self-respect.

[Marcus king]

Because he was broken long before you met him — and you kept trying to fix him.

You gave love to a man who didn’t know how to love himself, and that’s a battle you can never win. From the start, you said he was negative, emotionally unstable, and always the victim. Those aren’t small traits — they’re signs of deep emotional immaturity. You saw his pain and wanted to help, but instead of healing, he pulled you into his storm.

When you loved him harder, he didn’t become better he became dependent. And when he couldn’t handle that anymore, instead of taking responsibility, he blamed you. That’s what people like him do they run when faced with their own reflection.

It wasn’t sudden, even if it felt that way. Emotionally, he had been detaching long before he finally said the words. He probably convinced himself that leaving you was some kind of “healing” for him, when really it was just avoidance avoiding guilt, accountability, and the truth that he hurt someone who only ever tried to love him.

You didn’t fail him. You just tried to pour love into a cup that was cracked from the inside.

Now it’s time to turn all that energy inward not asking “why did he do this,” but “why did I ignore the signs that I was being drained?” You don’t need to become Superwoman for anyone. You just need to be someone who never has to beg to be respected.

This wasn’t love ending it was you being freed from emotional exhaustion disguised as love.

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