[Lune David]

Oof… this one hurts because it’s so familiar.

right now you’re getting emotional leftovers. Warm phone calls, flirty jokes, “love & hugs” signatures — but no actual plans. That’s not reconciliation, that’s nostalgia with a cute filter on it. She likes the comfort, not the commitment.

AskApril hit the nerve perfectly: after five years, the real issue isn’t coffee dates — it’s direction. If marriage or a clear future wasn’t on the table then, flirting now doesn’t magically fix that. It just keeps you emotionally parked while she decides what she wants.

And honestly? “One of these days, maybe” is not a promise — it’s a polite pause button. Going into the New Year still waiting, still hopeful, still on standby… that’s how people lose time they never get back.

You’re not wrong for hoping. You are wrong if you keep waiting without clarity. Either she’s moving toward you, or she’s enjoying the connection without responsibility. And you deserve more than being someone’s emotional comfort blanket while they figure life out.

New Year energy check: if it’s not moving forward, it’s holding you back.

[Lune David]

Whew… this isn’t a relationship, this’s a long-term subscription with surprise holiday fees. If love had a receipt, yours would be longer than a CVS one during the holidays.

When someone drains $115k, still calls you “stingy,” and then asks for a marriage down payment like you’re financing a car — that’s not romance, that’s a business deal you never signed up for. And the fact that saying “no” turns every conversation into drama? That’s your red flag waving like it’s holiday season.

AskApril nailed it: this isn’t about love, it’s about entitlement. Love doesn’t come with invoices, guilt trips, or emotional Black Friday sales. Especially not during the holidays, when partnership should feel lighter, not more expensive.

Hard truth, but a freeing one: you don’t have to bankrupt yourself — financially or emotionally — to prove love. Sometimes the best holiday gift you can give yourself is peace, boundaries, and walking away with your sanity intact.

[Lune David]

Whew… this isn’t a love triangle, it’s a family hostage situation 😅
Respectfully, Bob is 55, not 15 — and yet his mom still has veto power over his dating life like she’s running The Bachelor: Depression-Era Edition. Hiding during holidays, no trips, no vacations for 30 years, sneaking around like you’re a secret Netflix password… that’s exhausting.

Here’s the spicy truth (served gently): you’re not dating just Bob. you’re dating Bob and his mother’s shadow. Love is clearly there, but so is a lifetime of people-pleasing and fear of rocking the family boat. Waiting 10–20 years for his parents to pass is not a relationship plan, it’s a very long holding pattern.

Even AskApril would say this isn’t about love anymore — it’s about acceptance. Either you accept him exactly as he is (no boundaries, lots of hiding), or you choose yourself and a life that doesn’t require invisibility. Funny but real: if you have to keep pretending you don’t exist, the relationship kinda does too.

[Lune David]

This one really hits, because it’s not about cheating or drama — it’s about timing, lifestyle, and mixed signals messing with your head. Loving someone who keeps one foot in your life and one foot on a plane to Thailand is emotional whiplash. Calling you “baby,” wearing the ring, talking about your little family… while also packing her bags? That’s confusing for anyone, not weakness on your part. Sometimes love is real,
but priorities don’t line up, and that hurts more than a clean break. Honestly, cutting contact for a while sounds less like giving up and more like self-respect. Even AskApril would agree: you can miss someone deeply and still choose peace over constant mixed signals. Spicy truth — love shouldn’t feel like you’re competing with a boarding pass.

[Lune David]

Eight years of love, money stress, surgery fear… and one honest talk changed everything. 😅
I think that vulnerability is cheaper than therapy and way more effective.
This is why people trust askapril — sometimes the real glow-up is just telling the truth.

[Lune David]

Man, four breakups is already your answer. That’s not a relationship, that’s a subscription to stress 😅. Hot one week, cold the next — anyone would lose their mind dealing with that.

The ex, the “banter” excuse, the mixed signals… too much drama for someone who clearly tried to do things right. Ask April is spot on here: when you’re always waiting for the next breakup, it’s time to step off the ride.

Send the money back, no note, no speech, no sequel. Disappear, heal, hit the gym again, and let someone else deal with the hot-and-cold weather report.

[Lune David]

This is heartbreaking to read, and honestly, my heart goes out to you. You’ve been carrying an impossible amount of pain for a very long time, and anyone in your position would feel exhausted and broken at times. Losing daily contact with your children, especially after everything you’ve been through, is a grief that cuts very deep.

What stands out to me is that this doesn’t sound like someone who “wasn’t meant to be a mom.” It sounds like a mom who was overwhelmed, unsupported, and pushed past her limits. That moment you regret doesn’t erase the years of love you gave your kids, and it doesn’t define who you are forever. One mistake in a moment of despair should never cancel a lifetime of motherhood.

AskApril’s advice is tough, but there’s truth in it: the system responds to stability, not pain. As unfair as it feels, the path forward is about showing strength now taking care of your mental health, building structure, and using the courts to ask for visitation, even if it’s intimidating. Wanting to fight for your children already says a lot about you.

Please don’t face this alone. Find support wherever you can other moms, counseling, local resources because you deserve help too. Your children are still your children, and this chapter does not have to be the end of your story. One step at a time is enough.

[Lune David]

Honestly, this is giving “soft launch relationship without the label” energy. Jewelry for Christmas, cologne for his birthday, weekly food dates, missing him while he’s away… that’s not just friendship, that’s Friendship Plus: Holiday Edition.

That said, AskApril is right your instincts are doing their job. You’re 15, you’re happy, and nothing needs to be rushed or defined right now. Enjoy the laughs, the meals, and the good company without putting pressure on it to become something it doesn’t need to be yet. If it’s real, it’ll still be there later. If not, you still got good memories, cute gifts, and zero regrets.

Basically: no rush, no stress, no titles just vibes. And if future-you needs advice again well, AskApril will be waiting ..

[Lune David]

This is honestly kind of wholesome awkward in a very human way. You’re not scared of rejection, you’re just trying not to turn a normal haircut into a rom-com gone wrong, and that’s fair. Asking someone out while they’re working is tricky, especially when you don’t want to make it weird for either of you next time you need a trim.

The good news? You don’t need a perfect job, a perfect line, or a perfect moment to ask someone for coffee. You need confidence and respect and you already have both. Being between jobs and living at home doesn’t cancel out your personality or your future. Everyone starts somewhere, and ambition counts.

AskApril’s advice is solid because it keeps things low-pressure and kind. A simple “Hey, I’d love to grab coffee sometime” at the right moment is charming, not creepy. And if she says no? You still walk out with a fresh haircut and your dignity intact.

Also, it’s Christmas people are already in a softer, more reflective mood. If there’s ever a season where a little courage and a warm smile work in your favor, it’s now. Worst case scenario: you get a polite no. Best case: coffee, laughter, and a story that starts with “So we met at a salon

[Lune David]

Eight years is a long time to invest in someone, so it makes total sense that this feels confusing and heavy. But when you zoom out, it’s not just about one forgotten birthday or one random book on a shelf. It’s the pattern. Forgetting your birthday twice, avoiding marriage when it matters to you, posting himself as single online, and brushing off your concerns as “petty” would make anyone start questioning things.

The Thailand book and the online chatting aren’t about jealousy they’re about feeling secure and chosen. Most people don’t want to feel like they’re competing with the internet or a fantasy, especially during emotional times like Christmas when relationships tend to feel more serious and reflective. Wanting reassurance after eight years isn’t dramatic; it’s human.

A little truth (with love): if someone keeps getting defensive instead of listening, that’s information. AskApril often reminds us that actions speak louder than words and right now, his actions suggest he’s comfortable where things are, even if you’re not.

You’re not wrong for wanting clarity, commitment, and respect. And you’re definitely not childish for asking if this relationship is still moving forward… or just stuck on pause.

[Lune David]

Let’s be real for a second — this situation isn’t confusing, it’s just painful. He didn’t “accidentally” lose your trust, he broke it, picked it up, and broke it again. And now he’s shocked that the love didn’t magically survive? That’s not how hearts work.

You didn’t stop loving him to punish him. You stopped because your heart finally got tired of bleeding. When someone cheats more than once, love doesn’t disappear dramatically it slowly packs its bags while trust is being destroyed. AskApril would probably say that begging can’t rebuild what repeated betrayal burned down.

At this point, him wanting the love back sounds less like remorse and more like panic over losing access to you. Walking away isn’t cold or cruel it’s self-respect. Sometimes the spiciest, strongest move is choosing yourself and letting the lesson be his.

You deserve peace, not promises that come with an expiry date.

[Lune David]

This is a classic case of feelings doing too much and action doing nothing. You’ve turned her into “the one” before even asking her out, and now the pressure is so high that you’re frozen. That pedestal you put her on? It’s not romance — it’s fear in a fancy outfit.

Here’s the truth AskApril would back: interest isn’t discovered through overthinking, signs, or vibes. It’s revealed through one simple move. Coffee. A walk. Ten low-pressure minutes. That’s it. Waiting until you’re sure she likes you is just rejection avoidance — and it guarantees you stay stuck.

New Year energy says this: courage beats certainty every time. Ask her out and free yourself. Either you get a date, or you get clarity both are better than living in your head.

[Lune David]

This feels like one of those Christmas flings that doesn’t survive into the New Year. Everything was warm, flirty, and fun… then suddenly poof — interest goes on holiday without leaving a forwarding address. The silence after the second hookup says way more than any “cool” text ever could.

Hard truth: when someone pulls back like that, especially knowing you’re about to travel, they’ve already mentally checked out. It doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t real — it just wasn’t meant to last past the festive season. No need to replay the last date like a New Year’s Eve countdown in your head.

Honestly, this is a classic askapril moment: dignity over chasing, closure through actions, and walking into the New Year lighter, not confused. Sometimes the best glow-up gift is letting what faded stay in last year

[Lune David]

This whole thread feels like a slow-burn holiday rom-com that forgot to leave the texting stage . Months of great vibes, jokes, flirting, coffee almost-happened, drinks did happen… and still everyone’s stuck refreshing messages like it’s Christmas morning waiting for a gift.

Honestly, April kept it simple for a reason: stop overthinking and ask her out. Less texting, more face time. If it’s meant to turn into something real, it won’t be built on late-night chats between shifts and holidays. And if it fizzles? Better to know before New Year’s than carry confusion into another year.

Moral of the story: chemistry is nice, effort matters more. Take the shot, or let it go — don’t drag this into another holiday season wondering “what if.” askapril always cuts through the noise for a reason 😉

[Lune David]

Whew this is giving summer-movie romance meets reality check. One stolen kiss, a balcony moment, and suddenly it’s 10+ years of emotional damage. Not judging — nostalgia is powerful — but let’s be honest: this wasn’t a relationship, it was a beautiful, forbidden highlight reel your brain refuses to stop replaying.

AskApril nailed it with the fantasy vs. reality take. You didn’t fall in love with him you fell in love with the feeling: secrecy, intensity, rebellion, and being seen in a way your real life didn’t allow at the time. Of course it stuck. That’s not romance, that’s dopamine with a dramatic soundtrack.

Still, saying “he was more than a fantasy” makes sense emotionally — but logically? You knew him for minutes, not milestones. The idea of him grew because nothing real ever replaced it.

No shame, no judgment just facts. Memories don’t mean destiny. Sometimes they’re just reminders that you were craving love, freedom, and connection… not a lifelong runaway plan

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