[Melanie Beck]

It’s very bad to here that you both broke up with each other

First, I’m really sorry. This wasn’t just a breakup. This was years of love, hope, promises, and then confusion. Anyone in your place would be hurting this deeply.

The hardest part isn’t losing him. It’s losing the version of him you believed in. That boy existed once. But the person he became kept choosing himself, his freedom, and other people, while still keeping you close enough to not feel alone.

That’s why it hurts so much.

He cheated. He lied. He kept someone else in the background. He gave you hope when it suited him and pulled away when things got real. That’s not love, that’s emotional immaturity.

What you’re feeling now isn’t weakness. It’s attachment. You grew up with him. He was your comfort. Letting go feels like losing part of yourself.

Few Questions to ask you, no pressure, just reflection:

1. Do you miss him, or do you miss how loved you felt back then?
2. If he hadn’t blocked you, would this cycle still be going?
3. If someone treated your best friend this way, what would you want her to do?
4. What are you afraid will happen if you fully let go?

Right now, the kindest thing you can do is stop reopening the wound. No checking his socials. No replaying old memories. Not because you don’t care, but because you do.

You’re about to turn 18. This relationship taught you how deeply you can love, but it also taught you what you should never accept again.

This isn’t the end of your love story.
It’s just the end of this chapter.

If you want, tell me what hurts the most right now, the betrayal, the loss, or the unanswered questions. I’m here.

[Melanie Beck]

The sitution you were in is very normal, you just got attachment with him .

You handled this with a lot of maturity, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

From the outside, it looks like there was a real connection , but it stayed easy only because it never asked much of him.

He enjoyed talking to you, the attention, the comfort, and the chemistry. What he didn’t show was follow-through. Being late, making last-minute plans, slowly pulling back, and then disappearing instead of having a respectful conversation, those are choices, not misunderstandings.

Before felling any regreat in your decisssion, Some questions worth asking yourself now:

1. Did I feel calm and secure with him, or mostly uncertain?
2. Was I filling in gaps with hope instead of behavior?
3. Do I want someone who disappears when things get uncomfortable?
4. If this exact pattern happened again, would I stay as long?

You didn’t waste your time. You learned how much consistency and effort actually matter to you, and that’s valuable.

Next time, you’ll notice the signs earlier.

If you want another perspective, you can always ask April, but trust this: someone who truly wants you won’t leave you guessing or talking to silence.

[Member]

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