[Carl Matthew]

I think a doctor is the best person who can help you and explain the changes in your behavior since you started taking your medication. So you should go see your doctor as soon as possible, do it for yourself, not for him.

Try to keep yourself busy as well and do activities that can help your physical and mental health, like going to the gym, for example.

It’s better to work on yourself first before trying to fix your relationship, because if you become okay, your relationship may also improve afterward.

Focus on yourself for now.

[Carl Matthew]

Just talk about it properly and calmly. Explain your reasons for why you’ve gotten tired of hosting the adult parties so she can understand you better.
If you no longer want to do it, it’s going to be hard to continue anyway, and it might not even be successful moving forward. It’s not wrong to ask her to stop, it’s your marriage, and as a couple, you should be open with each other about these things.

[Carl Matthew]

Instead of texting, why don’t you call her? Women usually prefer that because they can feel the conversation more, it becomes more personal and romantic. It kind of levels up the interaction when it’s a phone call.
Ask her out on a date so you can get to know her better. Also, admit that you like her in a more romantic way. Show her clearly that you’re interested.
Compliment her on different things, like how beautiful she is and also her personality. Then just see how things turn out from there.

[Carl Matthew]

You’re only three months into this relationship, so I think both of you are still adjusting, especially on his side since this kind of setup is new to him. It seems like you both have expectations, but you’re not really getting them met right now.

It would be better if you don’t stress yourself too much about how to fix or make this setup work. Take things slowly and try to figure out together how your relationship can function in a way that works for both of you.

You’ll be able to think more clearly when there’s no pressure involved.

[Carl Matthew]

You like her, right? And there were signals that she might like you too, but you didn’t really do anything about it.

Maybe that’s why she started thinking you weren’t interested in her. Why don’t you just confess your feelings and ask her out? Why don’t you try courting her so you can find out the answer to your question?

The problem is, you haven’t even taken the step to properly invite her on a date, and now you’re confused about her behavior. I think the issue is with you, you’re lacking action.

[Carl Matthew]

First, you’re both married. Second, you already know it’s wrong and you know what you should do, but you’re choosing not to do the right thing.

You’re just looking for trouble. It would be better to stop it now while it’s still early to avoid worse situations that you might regret later on.

No matter how I look at it, I can’t see what you mean about “giving it a chance” or “looking at it from a different direction.” Wrong is wrong, and it can’t be justified just because of how you feel.

[Carl Matthew]

There are a lot of red flags. It seems like there were several times when they were alone together at night.

First, at the drinking session, you only went along even though you weren’t invited. Then the guy even has a key to their house. For sure, he also goes to her parents’ house when she’s there. Meanwhile, you weren’t even invited to their house, you were the one who just showed up on your own.

I’m not sure if I’m right, I’m only basing it on the situation. It’s not clear, but it’s possible that she is cheating on you and it seems like she might be looking for affection from someone else.

All I can say is that the final decision is still yours, whether you want to fight for this relationship or just move on.

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