[Miles]

Just forget about it and move on. Make sure that this time you stay mature and don’t repeat the same kind of actions that could destroy your relationship with your partner.
You should always think about your children and what is best for them.

[Miles]

A better question might be whether you actually like her. Because what’s the point of finding out if she likes you if you don’t really like her in the first place?

So if you do like her, and you feel like she might like you too, then you should make the first move. You could invite her out to dinner or go watch a movie together so you can get to know each other better.

Then you can clearly tell her what your intentions are, and after that, you can ask her directly. It’s really that simple, you just need to be confident and take initiative.

[Miles]

It’s clear to both of you that what you had was only a friends-with-benefits setup. That’s why from the beginning, you should have been more careful and used family planning so you wouldn’t end up pregnant.
But since it has already happened, the situation can’t be changed now. Given that this is the case, you should prepare yourself to be a single mother. My advice is to talk to him about what kind of support he will provide for the child, and handle it through the proper legal process.

[Miles]

I think you’re just looking for a problem where there isn’t necessarily one. Right now it’s just a cuddle buddy situation, but it’s also possible that over time it could turn into sex, and I’m pretty sure the guy wants that too. There’s really no difference between this and a friends-with-benefits setup.
The issue is that you’re not staying open to other people, meaning you might miss out on a more serious relationship that could actually suit you better than just a cuddle buddy situation. You might just be wasting your time and getting stuck in one place.
I don’t know if you just don’t want to be alone, which is why you’re doing this. But it might be better to stay single and open yourself up to other possibilities instead of getting stuck in this kind of confusing setup.

[Miles]

I think since you’ve only just started dating this girl, she may not be fully sure about you yet. It’s possible that she says nice things when she’s with you, but acts differently with someone else when she’s with them.
So it might be better to focus on her actions rather than just what she says. It seems like she’s at a stage where she’s trying to figure out which option is better before she fully commits.
In the end, it’s still your decision whether you want to compete in that situation or just try to look for other options yourself. It’s also probably not a good idea to confront her at this point, since you’re not officially committed to each other yet.

[Miles]

They were together for a long time, and your relationship is still new, so you might just be a rebound for him. I think those messages to his ex could be his way of trying to fix their relationship. I’m not saying he doesn’t love you, but maybe he does have feelings for you while still not being fully ready.
So my advice is to confront him about what you read and talk to him properly and calmly. It would be better for him to sort things out with his ex first before fully starting something serious with you. Because what if he ends up getting back with his ex, you might be left hurt.
That’s why it’s better to talk to him and, for now, maybe take a step back.

[Member]

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