[Karen]

I don’t think this is about his sexuality. It’s clear that he likes women. My impression is that he may just be using you, and that what he mainly wants from you is sex.
There’s a difference between sex that comes with feelings and sex that is only about physical release. In your situation, it may not feel special or romantic to him, which could be why he doesn’t want to kiss you.
My advice is that since you are not officially together yet, you might be better off looking for someone else, someone more serious, and someone with whom you can feel warmth and connection not only in sex but also in love.

[Karen]

That’s a difficult situation. Maybe you can still handle it for now, but in the long run, a lack of passion and sexual intimacy in a marriage can become a serious problem.
My advice is that you might be better off looking for someone else, because in the long term, if you end up seeking that kind of intimacy elsewhere, it could still lead to a breakup anyway, and you might even end up doing something you regret just to satisfy that need. So it may be better to stop this situation early on.

[Karen]

It is possible for your healthy relationship to come back. The problem is that you are getting too affected by what other people are saying, even though you know it’s not true. Even your boyfriend has already reassured you.
To be honest, I think the main issue here is your reaction to the situation. You need to calm down and stop focusing on what his ex or other people are saying. As long as your relationship with your fiancé is actually going well, there shouldn’t be a problem to worry about.

[Karen]

Just talk to him calmly and make it clear that you are not trying to control him and that you are not that kind of person. It’s just that you care about him and sometimes you worry. Also, since you are both committed to each other, there is nothing wrong with expressing that, as long as it’s not too much.
About the other girl, she’s only going to be there for a year anyway. Just don’t neglect your relationship with your boyfriend. You don’t need to be too worried about the 22-year-old girl, what you need to do is make sure your relationship stays strong and don’t lose your place in it.

[Karen]

It would be better if you ask him what’s going on with him, since he wasn’t like that before. You can tell him that you’ve noticed and you’re feeling a bit confused about his behavior these past few days.

It’s better to talk about it early before it gets worse. But try not to overthink too much for now, just speak to him calmly and let him explain himself. There might be a deeper reason behind it.

[Karen]

You know, passion and sex are very important in a relationship. That should have been worked out from the beginning, because in the long run, you will both eventually feel exhausted if you’re not truly enjoying it.
If there’s still something you can do before she leaves, try to address the issue about your sexual connection and passion. Spend more time and effort figuring out how to make things more special and romantic between you two.
That’s all the advice I can give you.

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