[Diana]

At the age of 21, a person does not know what they will like tomorrow, so playing “house to house” with someone else is a bit risky. AskApril got it right that you are hiding behind “statistics”, while the real problem is her own insecurity.
Wao
Ask April’s advice is really great! She did not scare the girl but showed her the truth. Her way of talking is so balanced that she guides by keeping in mind both the old-fashioned things and the modern-day lifestyle. You are pro……
Listen! If you are getting a free house, then move, but remember that “Living Together” is a trial version of marriage. If the looks of each other start to poison the trial itself, then the person will measure the path before it reaches the point of divorce. I think you are a bit of an overthinker!

[Diana]

The phone got washed with the bedsheets at 10 PM? Wao
If she were actually that into cleanliness, she would’ve planned to meet you more than twice in two years! This ‘washed phone’ excuse was only used to shut you up, exactly like giving a toy to a toddler to keep them quiet. In reality, the phone didn’t get washed; it was your hopes that were washed away.
Meeting only 1 week in 2 years is not a relationship; it is called a “Guest Appearance”. You should cancel the Facebook request, and also “terminate” the request for this relationship. Otherwise, when she comes in December, only the cost of tickets and documents will be yours, and the memories will be someone else’s!

AskApril said it perfectly, that stop crying about Facebook, the real problem is physical contact. A 25-year-old young girl is in college, and you are sitting thousands of miles away, so obviously, she is going to “Play the field”. Accept the bitter truth that she is probably dating someone else there.
You are just a “safety net” for her; when she is bored, she chats on WhatsApp, but her real life (Facebook)

[Diana]

This is straight-up “emotional blackmailing.”
“I’ve broken up, but you’re still holding on to your cruise ticket.” What’s this joke? It’s the same as “I burned down your house, but I’ll definitely come back for tea.” This girl is keeping you as a backup plan. When she’s feeling lonely, she’ll cry on your shoulder on the cruise and then come back and say, I’m still confused.
The girl is emotionally weak, but that doesn’t mean she’ll break up whenever she wants. I think she’s hanging you between the friend zone and the lover zone. It’s better to fall to the ground and move on than to be hanging like that!

[Diana]

That wasn’t an “invite,” that was a billboard that said, “I LIKE YOU!” That girl is looking for excuses to hang out in your building, sending you videos, and making a big deal about giving you her number, and you’re still hiding behind imagination.
The girl is clearly available, but you’re showing her the way to the Friendzone with your silence and fear. If you still haven’t made a move, AskApril was absolutely right; her wedding invitation will come to your door, and you’ll be left watching!
Now show some confidence, this isn’t a world war, it’s just a date. Take the lead before it’s too late!

[Diana]

“Love of my life” messages at 3 am only come when a man is lonely, or his new rebound is getting boring. If you were truly the love of his life, he would be standing in the clinic holding your hand, not sitting with his friends drinking and playing games.
What he is saying is, “I don’t want to lose you from my life.” It is just a ploy to keep you as his backup plan. He wants to have fun with new girls out there and also satisfy his ego by making you cry.
Good! You did the best you could by returning the ring. A 20-year-old who runs away in the name of responsibility and is hanging out with another girl a week after the breakup is not husband material, but just a lesson.
Block this guy immediately. He is taking advantage of your innocence and past failures.
He feels that whenever he comes back, you will find him sitting there. The day you truly move on and look happy, that is when he will get the real fire. Don’t be someone’s “choice”, but be the one who has left him in the past and moved on.

[Diana]

I think you have a PhD in Overthinking! People don’t think as much before marriage as you think for a coffee date.
By the time you decide on a new date, the girl will have a new boyfriend, and her wedding card will have arrived. AskApril is right that if you want to be a man, take the lead. This “I liked her post by mistake” behavior looks good on school kids, not on a man working in a factory. The girl wants to be “Available”, but you’re showing her the way to the Friendzone with your silence.
By the way, the girl is also playing a double game with you! First, telling her boyfriend’s story, then saying I don’t have money, so I’m staying with him, and then sends you a blushing emoji, this is running a “Mixed Signals” factory!
Such girls often don’t leave the old relationship until a new backup is ready.
Hi AskApril, I like your style. Your confidence and straightforward way of talking are amazing. You have correctly understood that the real enemy of a guy is his own shame and past failures. The way April motivated him by saying, “It’s not cancer or a world war, it’s just a date,” is truly commendable.

[Diana]

When a girl repeatedly mentions personal issues or grandma’s health, in 90% of cases, it means: “I’m not interested in you anymore, but I don’t want to be rude.”
You said sorry about “I was late” being the biggest mistake. Girls like men who value their time, not those who make excuses for their insecurity.
By the way, AsakApril’s advice is professional and to the point. She said that If you like it, why are you waiting? Pick up the phone and ask her out on a date. Her point was that the game is in your hands, so throw the ball.
The girl opened the door, and you stood at a distance and kept asking for “permission,” and the girl closed the door tiredly.
Are you listening? The next time a girl gives you her number, take off your modesty and be a little decisive. Being “shy” is not a sin, but being “confused” is the death of dating.

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