[Rachel]

If this only happened once, then maybe you’re overreacting. But if it’s happened several times since you’ve been together, then that’s already a red flag.
Just think about it, you put effort into preparing to see him, and then he suddenly cancels. That effort goes to waste, right? And he doesn’t even seem to consider that. Honestly, that’s pretty insensitive.
What I can say is, don’t get stuck on someone like that. Try to keep dating other people. You’ve already broken up before, and it seems like you’re really not compatible with each other.

[Rachel]

It’s clear that he’s trying to get your attention and that he likes you—he’s just expressing it through jokes.

[Rachel]

Which one is it that you can’t forget, the mistake you made or the other guy? Because you and your boyfriend are already okay now. He gave you another chance, so why are you still making it a big deal? If anything, he should be the one making an issue out of it, but he’s choosing not to.
What you should focus on now is how you can make up for your mistake and continue to change for the better. Make sure this kind of situation never happens again. You shouldn’t get involved with someone else when you’re already committed to another person.

[Rachel]

Well, I think immediate action is really needed. And the only thing you can do is to talk properly with your partner.
To be honest, he is not actually helping his son—he’s even encouraging him to be more lazy because he keeps covering for him. Just make your partner realize that this is also for his son’s own good, not just for the two of you.
His son needs to learn responsibility because he is not a child anymore, and you won’t always be there to support him throughout his life.

[Rachel]

I think if you keep spending time with this guy, nothing will really change in your situation. You might even end up liking him even more, and we already know he doesn’t feel the same way about you, so this is really difficult for you.
Try changing your circle of friends. I’m not saying you should forget your other friends, but maybe try meeting new people and spending time with others first so you can move on.

[Rachel]

Based on your story, your boyfriend is stressed with what’s going on in his life, and that is the main reason why he’s not happy.
So I suggest that you let him be for now so he can sort himself out before you try to fix your relationship. If he becomes okay again and it’s still possible for the two of you, then you can try again. But for now, it’s not a good idea to continue given his situation. He needs to focus on himself first.

[Rachel]

I think if she really liked you, she wouldn’t have reacted that way when you told her you were falling for her. Her reaction seems a bit like disappointment—maybe she felt that now that you’ve confessed, expectations will follow, which is why her behavior suddenly changed.
If her reason is that she just recently broke up with her ex, then it’s possible she still has feelings for that person and isn’t ready to enter a new relationship yet.
It might be better to give her space and time, and also give yourself time to think clearly. At the same time, try to stay open to other possible relationships since there is no commitment between the two of you.

[Member]

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