[Jhanice Vinta]

She likes you. The problem is that she’s also not clear about what you want.
You should have already asked her out on a date for Wednesday. Since you didn’t, she might think that you’re not really interested in her.
That’s probably why she’s acting unsure or distant now.

[Jhanice Vinta]

It’s clear that you like her based on your behavior. The fact that you are overthinking so many things means you don’t see her as just a friend.

My advice is to show her how you really feel. Ask her out on a date, and whatever the outcome is, accept it. That’s just how things are sometimes. But at least you tried, and your questions will become clearer after that.

[Jhanice Vinta]

I agree with your definition of white lies. What he is doing, however, seems more like ignoring your decisions or what you are uncomfortable with. For example, going to a club, he would rather not tell you because he knows you wouldn’t approve, but afterward he is willing to admit the truth if asked.
In my view, for a relationship to last and become strong, decisions should be mutual. The issue I see here is that he doesn’t want to follow your boundaries, but at the same time you also don’t want to lose him. The problem is, you can’t always get both what you want.
So the answer depends on what matters more to you. You will have to give up something, either him, or your principle of not accepting that kind of behavior.

[Jhanice Vinta]

I think she also likes you, but there’s just a little hesitation. However, that’s not even the main issue right now. If you’re going into a long-distance relationship, you will definitely miss each other physically and emotionally.
You probably already know that relationships like that rarely succeed. It really depends on how strong you both are in resisting temptations that may be around you. We’re only human, and we all have needs. Sometimes, when those needs aren’t met in a relationship, people start looking for them elsewhere.
So my advice is for both of you to think carefully before deciding.

[Jhanice Vinta]

You should end your relationship with him. He suddenly went on a date with another woman, then packed his things and left, saying he doesn’t need you anymore. I understand that you love him, but your parents are right to tell you to leave him and not get back together.
Love yourself too, this relationship is not healthy for you. Don’t wait until you also lose your family because of him. He is not worth fighting for.

[Jhanice Vinta]

It might just be an escape plan for her to say she needs to “find herself.” The truth is, she may have already lost interest in you.
It might be better to really give her time and space so she can realize things on her own. Maybe if she feels your absence, she will realize that leaving wasn’t what she truly wanted and come back to you.
But if she really does leave for good, even though it hurts, you will need to accept it and move on.

[Jhanice Vinta]

This is not about whether he likes you or not, the issue is that you like him. The problem is that you started as friends with benefits, and it only stayed that way because he is not able to commit to you since he already has a long-distance relationship.
So it will stay at that level. You need to accept that. Look for someone who shares the same perspective as you when it comes to relationships, someone who is on the same path as you. That way, complicated situations like this can be avoided.
If you’re going to take a risk anyway, at least choose someone who can actually choose you back.

[Jhanice Vinta]

If you are dealing with depression, your priority should be healing yourself first. Depression is not a small or easy condition, especially since you yourself have mentioned having thoughts of suicide.
You should look for people who bring positive energy into your life, not someone who adds more stress or confusion. This situation is not healthy for you.
Love your life and don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t value you. God is merciful, and your depression can get better, just keep your faith and also help yourself in the process.
Focus on yourself first.

[Jhanice Vinta]

It’s simple, take care of yourself. Eat healthy food with a balanced diet, exercise regularly, and work on making yourself feel confident and attractive again. Do this before your husband ends up looking for another woman, because whether we admit it or not, he also has needs, and that’s an important part of a relationship.

[Jhanice Vinta]

I think he’s just using you. If he truly wanted you, why would he avoid commitment? That means he’s more interested in what you do for him, not who you are.
It’s also not true that he’s not sexually attracted to you, because it’s clear that’s one of the things he’s after, and he’s getting it.
It’s better not to give in anymore and start pulling back, because you’re already wasting your time in that kind of setup. In the end, you’re the one who will lose since he doesn’t want to commit. Simply put, you’re not gaining anything from him.

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