[Pretty Raizhel]

First of all, you already said you don’t want a relationship with him anymore—you’re not interested in anything serious with him. So why are you still trying to have that kind of setup?
My advice is to just find someone else. Exes can’t really become friends in a healthy way. Sometimes he’s just becoming a distraction for you. Now that your life is getting better and more stable, it’s also time for you to move on from him too.
Whether it’s friendship or romantic feelings, it’s not really healthy for your life anymore.

[Pretty Raizhel]

My advice is that you can show interest in him or give signs that he has a chance with you if he decides to pursue you. But don’t be the one who chases him—let him be the one to initiate.

Most guys tend to get turned off when they are the ones being chased, because it feels like there’s no challenge for them anymore, and they don’t like that.

So for me, it’s not a good idea for you to be the first one to text him or ask him to hang out.

[Pretty Raizhel]

My advice is that you should give him space for now. It’s also not good to keep pushing what you want if he is already not in the same place emotionally.
In a relationship, both people should feel the same way and both should want it to work. For now, don’t text or call him—or even his mom—because it might just make him feel more pressured.
Just let him be for now, and if it really doesn’t work out, you need to be ready to accept whatever the outcome is. It’s hard, but you need to keep moving forward.

[Pretty Raizhel]

My advice is that you should give him space for now. It’s also not good to keep pushing what you want if he is already not in the same place emotionally.

In a relationship, both people should feel the same way and both should want it to work. For now, don’t text or call him—or even his mom—because it might just make him feel more pressured.

Just let him be for now, and if it really doesn’t work out, you need to be ready to accept whatever the outcome is. It’s hard, but you need to keep moving forward.

[Pretty Raizhel]

In my opinion, this is just a normal act of friendship, so there’s no need for you to be confused. If you want an honest answer and to get out of the “friend zone,” then you should tell her how you feel.
The truth is, you can’t really just stay as friends because you already have romantic feelings for her. That’s also why you might be interpreting her actions as possible signs that she likes you back—you want to believe that.
So my advice is to be direct and tell her exactly how you feel about her. The outcome could be good or bad, and you need to be ready for that. But you can’t just stay in this situation—you need to take action.

[Pretty Raizhel]

Don’t stress yourself. Just ignore them and don’t waste your time on them. Let your ex stay stuck with his sister and that kind of life—someone who seems to have no ambition and is content with that situation.

It’s not you who lost something—it’s them. You are a good person, and you deserve a good man in your life too. He is not your loss.

[Pretty Raizhel]

He is the best relationship you’ve had—he’s a good person and always makes you feel special. You also love him and feel attracted to him. But at the same time, you feel like you don’t really need him in your life, and you’re worried you might be wasting time in a relationship that doesn’t have a future.
Honestly, I don’t know what else you’re looking for in a relationship, when what you already have might be something others would wish for. Maybe you’re not that mature yet, which is why your thoughts feel a bit confused.
Maybe try to level up your commitment first and see how that helps you make a clearer decision. But if you truly can’t see yourself with this man in the future, it’s better to be honest with him and not give him false hope—especially since he hasn’t done anything wrong to you.

[Pretty Raizhel]

Because of one lie, you’ve started to lose trust in him, and now even the smallest things make you suspicious. That’s normal, because he already broke your trust—which is one of the foundations of a lasting relationship.
Honestly, it’s very hard for a relationship to work when trust is already broken. That’s why you may end up doing things that go too far, like monitoring him constantly. That’s not healthy anymore—you’re his girlfriend, but it’s starting to look like you’re stalking him.
My advice is that it might be better if you leave him, since he isn’t changing anyway. Your relationship is no longer healthy. This may also give him time to reflect, and maybe in the future he will change.

[Pretty Raizhel]

First of all, don’t do anything—just let him be the one to initiate. Don’t chase him. If he genuinely likes you, he will find a way to get your attention.

And if he truly likes you, he should show and express his intentions clearly and directly, so you don’t have to feel confused about whether he likes you or not.

Lastly, you both are always drinking when things get flirty between you. Try going out sometime without alcohol involved. People’s behavior can change when they’ve been drinking.

[Pretty Raizhel]

There really does come a time when the feeling of love seems to fade. In my opinion, that’s actually normal. You don’t feel intense love or excitement for your partner every single day—it’s up to you whether you continue choosing them or not.
For me, love isn’t just about the “spark” people talk about. It also involves patience, sacrifice, and commitment. That’s why in marriage vows there’s a line like “for better or for worse.” No relationship is perfect—it really depends on the people in it and how they carry it through.

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