[Luffy]

You love him very much, and my advice is to try it first so you can find out if he is really telling the truth, especially since he is willing to give you his phone password. Maybe that is his way of trying to be more honest with you.
Just observe where your relationship will go, so at least in the future you won’t have regrets like “what if I tried it?” Whatever the outcome will be, you just have to accept it.

[Luffy]

He likes you, but he doesn’t want commitment. So it could also be that he likes you, but only wants sex from you.
He says “I love you” so you’ll get more attached to him and so he can take more advantage of you. So to cut the long story short, he’s just using you.
Because if he truly loved you, he wouldn’t be afraid of commitment. I also feel like he might be talking to other women as well.

[Luffy]

Maybe you’re the only one holding on and thinking that you might still get back together. Because if he truly wants you, what reason would stop him from getting back together with you, especially if you both really love each other?
Try giving him some space first. If he misses you and realizes that he truly loves you, maybe you’ll get back together. But if not, then it’s clear that it’s really over. Just move on so you can also focus on yourself.

[Luffy]

That’s not being controlling. It’s just that what she wants is already too much, especially since you’re the one paying for all the expenses—you’re practically acting like her parent in that situation.
To answer your question, yes, there is a problem. If she’s going to be with those friends again, it’s not unlikely that they could go back to their old habits, so I agree with your concern.
You’re her boyfriend—if you see something that doesn’t seem right, it’s better to talk to her about it. It can’t always be just her doing whatever she wants. You do support her in other things, but if you feel something is wrong, it’s also right that you don’t just go along with what she wants.

[Luffy]

That’s really how quickly people can change their minds, especially when they find out something about you that they didn’t like. It makes them slow down so they can think things through. I can’t blame him for that.
At the same time, that’s also how you find out how much he really likes you—whether he’s willing to continue despite complications. So for me, it was still the right thing that you told the truth.

[Luffy]

Most porn really has that kind of theme. But that doesn’t necessarily mean he actually wants to have sex with his stepsister.
Try making your sex life together more exciting first—he might just be feeling unsatisfied, which is why he’s watching porn. I’m not saying what he’s doing is right, but maybe talk to him properly and calmly about what the real issue is, and why he still feels the need to watch porn even though you’re there.
Ask him if there’s anything you’re lacking so things become clearer between you. Talk to him in a calm way so it doesn’t immediately turn into an argument, and so you can both properly address the problem.

[Luffy]

If you can’t see yourself being with him until the end and you’re no longer happy to the point that you’re already cheating on him, then end it. It’s clear you don’t love him anymore, which is why you’re looking for comfort from someone else, even through sex.
Rather than hurting each other more, just end the relationship and don’t force it just because you feel guilty.

[Luffy]

First of all, your decision to continue your studies and finish your degree is the right one. Your parents will be disappointed if you don’t do that and instead choose to go with him. You said yourself that your parents have already invested a lot in your education. Your future also depends on your studies.
You can’t be sure what your life will be like if you stop and go with him. It would be better to end the relationship with him and focus on yourself and your education. You will still meet many other people—don’t waste your parents’ trust and your future on just one guy.

[Luffy]

For me, it’s still better to just keep your profile simple. Sometimes, when you overthink trying to make it too creative, it ends up feeling a bit over the top. Just my opinion.

[Luffy]

It’s crazy that it lasted two and a half years, but it’s clear that she isn’t as interested as you are in her.
Maybe she just wanted someone to talk to, which is probably why you still see her active on the dating app.
Sorry, but I think that’s the truth. You need to accept it and move on, because if you don’t, you might end up wasting even more years on this woman.

[Member]

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