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If she makes you happy and you want to ask her on a date, ask her! Don’t let your friend scare you about who to date. Even if she wasn’t easy for [i]him[/i] to get along with…she may be a totally different case for you.

If your friend gets jealous, then it’s his problem. They broke up! In my opinion, if he wanted her back, he should have told you this when you asked about her.

There ARE certain “guy rules” about dating a friends ex-girlfriend, but I don’t think this breaks any of them. I say ask her out.

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My advice is to just hang back and let her contact you next. (No matter how hard that will be!) You aren’t going to convince her to go on that dinner date by bombarding her with emails or phone calls asking why she hasn’t talked to you. It’s a little early in the process to get clingy, even if she told you how great a guy you are. Just hang back and wait for her to email YOU.

My OTHER advice is to trust your gut. If you feel like she’s avoiding you or leading you on, then you’re probably right. I don’t mean to sound cold or cynical, but dating websites are full of people who “hate dating” because they don’t like having to hurt the other persons feelings by telling them “It’s not working out”. She could’ve had a change of heart and doesn’t want to hurt you by telling you. Who knows?!

All I know is, you’re not going to get an honest answer by continually asking for one. If she’s truly into you, she’ll email you and reschedule that dinner date. If she thinks it’s not working out, you’ll have saved yourself the embarrassment of pouring your heart out to someone who doesn’t appreciate it.

The ball is in her court! Remember that.

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Thanks for the feedback! It is much appreciated.

After I posted this, Laura’s ex invited both of them to dinner while I was at work. Laura let Sienna go, but declined the invitation since it was last minute and she hadn’t discussed the plans with me before going. I felt like it was a huge step in the right direction. I was pretty happy knowing that she considered my feelings first before making her decision. (She told me she was extremely hungry too! 😆 ) I would’ve said it was absolutely okay for her to tag along with them had we talked about it first, but she saw the risk of hurt feelings and decided against going.

Did I mention that I’m head over heels for this girl? 😉 I found a good one with her. Even though we each have kids from previous relationships, neither one of us has been married. We’ve never found the “right one” until now. So shady ex-boyfriends or not, we have a great relationship (kids included) and we can’t wait to get married!!

Thanks again for the advice! 🙂

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