[dundee]

dont be so arrogant. i was giving you more info as the last bit may have been a bit biased. i will apply what you have advised but will have to wieigh up your comments with the whole picture. surely if u are genuinely interested you could take the trouble to read and comment everything.

[dundee]

hi ,

also you mention that she is potentially using me:
lets first assume that she hasnt cheated on me , just maybe thought about it a bit. when i have insinuated her using me, she replies: she cleans the house, cooks the meals, does the shopping (we split the bill). why am i so ungrateful and what do i do?
in fact she got daily shoulder or foot massages from me . i also had to , often spend the whole evening listening to her vent about her work colleagues,or family, often while she drank a whole bottle of wine and carried on and on.(often at least 3 times week.i would drive her wherever she wanted to go. i was there for her whenever she needed me and would even go and visit her aunt with her and lsiten to their conversation while they smoked and drank late into the night. i introduced her to all my friends and they made lots of effort to be friends with her.
she would be friends to their face but often would tell me that she is too intellectual for them.for her thirtieth birthday a booked the most expensive restaurant in the city and she turned up at home at 22h00 from visiting her aunt (as she said she missed her mother) . her aunt later confirmed this.

in reply to her cleaning the house, she is obsessive with cleaning and would be so even if i wasnt here. as for cooking she would cook maybe once a week, act like it was a masterpiece and i would say how much i appreciate it. then once finished she would ask me again did i enjoy it. i would say yes i did thanks, and alway she woudl get angry that i didnt praise her more. she hardly ate due to her urticaria so it was ‘all done for me’. anyway hope this gives you more of a picture. thanks for bothering to read this, i am really hurting and it helps to have your opinion , no matter what it is…!

[dundee]

hi thanks for you thoughts. in her defence, for going to stay with her mother for months:i am not well off and we have had to share all expenses around the house 50/50.she has said i would not be able to support a family like this. my work brings in limited income currently and have almost finished my savings. so the argument against could be that she is waiting for me to get a better job , then come back and then will marry me.do you think there is any chance that if one has cheated like her in the past, that this could stop.. forever. if we marry, i am a good father, bring in enough income? she has said that all she wants is a baby. re her past: she told me that she has had an abortion and now lives with the guilt. her father died in a terrible car crash and was actually murdered. (her father was a wealthy businessman who earned his money in underhand ways. (and then lost it all). she lost an ex boyfriend who drove over a cliff. that she was drugged and raped once. that she had her first sexual partner when she was 12. had anorexia which now stops her eating normally. has urticaria which flares up when she is stressed. claims she is psychic to a certain extent. she can spend a weekend just smoking drinking wine by herself and happily staring out the window. she will drink a whole bottle of wine , want sex and then get angry if i am turned off by it and when i say that she is drunk. she expects orgasms every time we have sex and when it doesnt always happen she will get upset and tell me that i am selfish in bed. . she had a boyfriend who she broke up with as she said he got violent. she has a taste for ‘adventurous’ sex and would like it if i spanked and bit her, put my hand on her throat during sex. i can imagine how maybe it wasnt his fault?? we had sex almost every day until the last 7 months , then just once a week. – she became unessarily obsessed with her work, even dreaming about it. the thing is that she is more highly sexed than me… (not that i am not!). she is intelligent, beautiful . she describes herself as complicated. she is down to earth and so am i. in the last week before she left we only had sex once.but slept together every night..i havnt given up yet but wud greatly apprct more comment!

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