[pyrofyter70]

Sorry April,

Let me be clear. She has a 5 year old and I have a 13 year old. I tried to talk to her again and she tells me I smother her being around. I was told today at this point she dosent care if I am here or not. As stated before I am out of full time work and am around a lot. She said she is not going to do something that she dosent want to do or be. She is tired of talking about it and she said she is trying. I am not sure if this is the pregnancy (1st trimester), depression (which she has a history before) or it is truly me. I feel like a stranger in my own home, a person that has a room mate and share the same bed.

She does have a lot going on too, a terminally ill mother who is dying of cancer, and a family that is fighting about it. I just dont understand how you turn of intimacy, and then just seem to not care the other person is hurting? UGH… I must say my patience is running thin, either way I want to be a great father and want this to work because I truly love her BUT 😥 ….. Thanks for having this useful forum!!!!

[pyrofyter70]

Hello April and aammywammycammynd !! Thanks so much on the quick response. April I did ask her to marry me, and she said yes, NOW HERE IS WHERE I GET REALLY CONFUSED, the next day she gave the ring back and said she is not ready nor dhe is unsure if she ever wants to get married. She feels that having a child, is more of a commitment than marriage. Well needless to say that hurt!! lol I did happen to get a text message from her dad, it was one she sent to him… It said she should have said no from the beginning but she saw how much time and thought I put into it and did not want me to think she did not care or love him, and she is so blessed to have me in her life.

Amazingly enough my girlfriend dose not express or talk about her feelings. I always have to be the investigator and ask questions. I do feel I should have given her more space from the get go but hind sight is 20/20. I have no problem admitting I was 50% of the problem. I am giving her her space and see where it ends up. She has a 5 year old special needs son that I am a father like figure too, as well as a 13 year old son, so I am very ready to be a father again with a child of our own. Well wish me luck and thank you for the input!!!!

[Member]

Posts