[valporkc1]

So are you saying that it is better to just live our separate lives as civil and peaceful friends who live in the same house with our children? I can’t be the one to leave – I haven’t done anything wrong and I don’t want a divorce. Should I just sit and wait until he decides to leave? Will we ever have peace and a normal life or will we just become bitter and resentful of each other?

Right now he is behaving and does what I tell him to do, but like I said before he is depressed and despondant. I am the one forcing him to fight this restraining order – along with his family. There is part of me that honestly likes that he cannot contact her – although the police have been back because she is saying he tried to email her after the order was filed. As ridiculous as it is, he will have committed a felony if she can prove it and our whole family will be publically humiliated. But all I really want it for it proved once and for all that she is lying and he isn’t the one to blame here. Am I deluding myself?

What do I do if this all comes back as absolutely true and find out that he has lied to me over and over and over again. The thought of it is almost too much to think about and it makes me want him dead. How could I ever stay if it comes back true? What kind of person does that make me when I am only sacrificing all of this for my children.

I understand that I can’t do this all by myself and I thought that he was trying, but to be honest my gut instinct is that he has been lying all of this time. I hate myself almost as much as I hate him.

Will someone tell me that it’s okay to get a divorce and move on?

[valporkc1]

Thanks for the reply.

I do want her out of our lives, but she keeps coming back. i want to prove her to be the liar that she is. Yes he lied and cheated before but don’t you think I have to trust him completely to save my marriage. For a long time he would tell me that he was in love with her and just wanted to be with her but didn’t want to put our children through a divorce. But he has stopped saying all those things and now he keeps telling me she is crazy and making all of this up. It has caused such horrible drama in my family and regardless of the situation I want to remain being married!

MY husband has slept in the basement for the last 2 years, but I think if we can finally get her out of our lives and move foward that everything will be better. We have been on the brink of divorce a few time, but our family atty just keeps telling to fight through this for our children.

Im so confused and angry and just want my life to be back to the way it was before this woman destroyed it!

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