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Interesting topic and interesting contributions…
I’ll just make two more observations:
1. If the guy was trying to impress you, he would have dressed up appropriately for a first date, he wouldn’t have grabbed the remote from you, and he would have accepted anyone of your outting proposals. My conclusion is that either he didn’t care about impressing you (bad sign) or he lacks taste and manners (bad sign).
2. In a sense, I sort of agree with giving him a second change/second date (we all make mistakes, right?). But you have to realize a few things. First of all, he’ll probably interpret a second date as though you’re still interested in him. He’ll think you were satisfied with the first encounter and that you want to repeat the experience (that’s usually what a second date is). And at this point, after a second date, bailing out will become a lot harder. It’s a lot easier to say “no” right away, than to wait and do it later on. You’ll start feeling sorry for him, blah blah blah and you’ll find it hard to dump him…. which you’ll probably ending doing anyhow because you’re clearly not ont the same wave length. So if the second date goes bad, will you have the strength to tell him that you’re just not interested???? For me, that’s the important question you have to answer.
So basically, it’s your choice. But the longer you wait to say “no”, the harder it gets.

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There’s always two sides to a story. But it seems pretty obvious that this guy is not for you. You’re not overreacting. I wouldn’t give him a second chance. That’s what dating is all about: you meet people and if you’re not happy with the outcome of the meeting, you MOVE ON… until you find someone that really makes your days brighter.

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Good answer April. This woman will always have a tendency to cheat as soon as she’s not happy.

As for “stowle”, you’re a fricking a**hole for going out with a married woman who was having marital problems. What kind of values do you have? You want her to cheat on her husband (with you), but then you don’t want her to cheat on you…??? Nice one. ❓

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This is my advice:

1. Go to school and learn how to spell, and how to use the proper punctuation. Women like guys who are smart and who can hold a good conversation.

2. Improve your self-esteem. Women like guys who are conifdent and who can take charge. That doesn’t mean you have to act like sefl-centered jerk. Rather, it means you should hold your head up and be positive.

3. Be a gentleman. Show people (women) that even though you’re full of confidence, you’re not full of yourself. In other words, you’re able to think about others and do things for others. Being kind will never hurt you, quite the opposite: it’ll help attract the right kind of woman.

I’m the nicest guy you’ll ever meet. No joke. I was a catholic monk/seminarian for about 10 years, when I finally realized it wasn’t my place. Yet when I started dating for the first time in my life, in my early 30’s, I had absolutely no problem in finding and going out with great women…. and beautiful ones too (you should see my current girlfriend). This is what they all liked about me: I’m confident, I have intelligent things to say, I’m funny, I have good values, I’m a gentleman (hold doors open, give flowers) and I’m physically active and in shape. Oh! By the way, I’m keeping sex for marriage alone, and the women I’ve met so far really respect that. What I’m trying to tell you is that nice guys don’t always finish last, only wimps do. In the end, I think that THE most important thing to develop is self-confidence.

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Rose,

To be honest, from what you’ve written, this guy sounds a bit weird. The question you should ask yourself is not “Does he like me?”, but rather “Do I want to be in a relationship with a weird guy?” If your answer is “no”, which it should be (I hope), then tell him to stay away and that you’re not interested. You’re still young, but don’t waist your time. You’ll eventually find somebody else who’ll like you, and possibly love you.

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OMG You’re stupid. Holy crow….

You seem to be in a big mess. Maybe start off by sending her a dozen roses, with a note saying how much you love her, how much you want to be with her and how much you regret saying what you said.

Alcune persone in questo mondo sono propriamente pazze!!!

[GPM]

Remember one thing though: love is not an emotion, it’s a decision.

[GPM]

Here’s a fact: women accept opposite-sex friendships a lot easier than men. Women see guy friends as fun and interesting, whereas men see those same guys as threats to their relationship. Basically, where talking about two different mentalities. My girlfriend has a male “best friend”, so I know where you’re coming from. I’d say the important thing is to communicate and to make sure that she knows what line she shouldn’t cross with those ex’s.

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This is an easy one to answer: DUMP HER! She’s emtionally cheating on you and when she gets caught, she pathetically apologizes. Give me a break!!! Is she also laughing behind your back?

[GPM]

I don’t think that 80 is an average for a guy. That’s way too high. It looks like he just wanted sex, but without the relationship or the commitment. He might say that he’s over that stage of his life, but the reality is that those types of behaviours never really disappear. Let’s be serious here: people never really change overnight.In other words, he’ll always keep that “perverted” side of himself. I don’t know who you are so I can be TOTALLY honest and say that chances are he’ll eventually cheat on you. That’s probably not what you wanted to hear (or read), but that’s my opinion. I’ve seen too many relationships and marriages break-up due to the fact that one person was expecting the other to change…. and it never happened. BTW I’m 33 year old guy.

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Yep. Be a man and ask her out (for coffee or something). Women aren’t attracted to cowards. They like men who know what they want and do something about it.

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Hi Pearl,

I’m a guy and I completely understand Mark’s reaction. Relationships are built on trust. How can you expect him to trust you now? He asked you not to sleep with anybody else, you said “yes” and then you broke that commitment. In the back of his mind, he’s telling himself that he can’t trust you anymore. I’d be the same way. At his age, he’s not fooling around anymore. If he thinks you might cheat on him in the future, he won’t want to get involved with you. You can try to win him back. If you do, prepare to be in a relationship with somebody who will have a hard time trusting you. It’ll take him a long time to [b]really[/b] forgive you.

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Red flag #1: He smokes weed
Red flag #2: He drives a car wihout a license (in other words it doesn’t bother him to break the law)
Red flag #3: He has an anger problem
Red flag #4: He has kids, but no job (can you spell: irresponsibility)

Why the heck did you let him in your house in the first place? Because he gave you a bit of affection? Come on. Wake up. I think it’s time to do the rational thing and kick him out.
Is he using you? YES
To prove it, just tell him you won’t have sex with him until you get married. If by any chance he really loves you for who you are, he’ll go through with it. But if he’s just a perverted loser who’s looking for free sex, room and board, then he won’t stand it and just leave (which would be a blessing for you).

[GPM]

Here’s my opinion:

Based on the information you provided, the guy you’re dating probably lacks a bit of maturity. That’s more than likely due to his age. For him, texting is more a[b] game [/b]than anything else. He’s just having fun. Now, if he had a bit more maturity, he’d realize that it’s not very considerate towards you to show that much attention to women that aren’t even his friends. But in his mind, I’m sure it’s just a game. However, I hope you realize that immature guys often look for the “hottest” women. Deep down, they’re the ones they want to go out with. That’s more than likely another subconscious (or not) reason why he’s texting them, even though he won’t admit it. But that’s normal (or I’d say natural… it’s called the male instinct). Should you be concerned? At this point, I’d say maybe a bit, but not too much. He’s just a grown up kid right now. If the guy was 35 yrs old, had a great job, a house, and well settled in life, and on top of that enjoyed texting the “hottest” co-workers in the office, and was in a relationship…. then I’d be concerned. But right now, it’s probably just a phase in his life. If, texting aside, he treats you well and shows you the proper affection on a regular basis, then you shouldn’t feel insecure.

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Jenni, this is a public forum, so anybody can post their opinion. So here’s mine, based on experience.

Your mind is telling you to dump him.
Your feelings are telling you to keep him.

LISTEN TO YOUR MIND. Things will only get worse, trust me (and you know it). Alcohol and anger, which often go together, will kill your relationship. You’ll never be happy with him.
My advice: get out of the relationship right now. You’ll find somebody else eventually. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don’t pick a crab. Screwed up guys like him shouldn’t get married and shouldn’t raise kids. If you’re plan is to get married and raise a loving family, he’s NOT the guy for you. Just be friends with him, that’s all… nothing else.

My opinion only….

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