[Marie12]

I truly appreciate the advice and the Man’s prospective is great too..The roving eye does not bother me too much its just in addition to the other things that adds too suspicion. I am not high maintainece. I DO NOT believe in busting a man’s balls and looking for trouble for pleasure or pain.. I love this man so much and trusted him so much until these little issues started to creep up one by one and start to infect our relationship. As you can see, this is not my first rodeo and in the past, I ignored red flags and accepted people as is..I can’t afford another heartache and I am only trying to understand the truth here. Thank you and please keep the advice coming..the more advice the better!!! Would like a man in his 50’s to post his thoughts so I can get a good prespective of what I am dealing with.
For the record..I absolutely agree never comfront your partner unless you have rock solid proof..I guess thats why I am asking advice on this site, I am internalizing lol 🙄

[Marie12]

Thank you. Well I can tell you that the email I saw to the other woman was the same night we supposendly had in his eyes “Something Special”., and two weeks into dating when we had already made plans to vacation seperately prior to our first date., he told me he was alone on his vacation and the email specifically read plans to meet with the other person., I did not see any correspondance after this one email. Also, I saw porn sites, “Hook-up” sites (sexual)..I did tell him I bumped into this part when I went to use his computer..he admitted that prior to me yes he used social and sex sites to hook up..but he hasn’t since his been with me. So the fact he used these sites and hes has the capability to do what he wants during the day because hes an outside salesman., I am very nervous by this type character I am seeing. The ONLY thing that is keeping me going here is how good he is to me., and his age..I’m thinking perhaps you get to an age where this crap stops? I don’t know? I am very confused..I don’t want to throw a good thing away if he is now mature and ready to slow down with just me and I am not sure if I need more evidence to do it. He cheated in a long term marriage and a long term relationship that never led to marriage. But he is with me almost everynight., I just don’t know what the day holds when Im not looking. I hate that I have discovered these things., but I must admit his honesty about them and his affairs of the past confuses me even more because if anything is in hiding why is he so honest about his behaviors of the past and what he did prior to me? He is not protective over his phone nor computer and I bumped into this stuff just attempting to check my own email and his was open. This coupled with his honesty of his past behavior and actions is the major contributing factor to my insecurity. I have met his family and friends and our relationship is out there and can’t be hidden thats for sure. If I turn back now on moving in with him after I said i would, it could very much hurt/damage our relationship., so I am going to stay at his place with my stuff in storage for a few months and see how I feel prior to making a long term commitment in a “together place” or long term lease. This was a change from my orginal plans with him to get a togehter place and a change i made within the past two weeks upon learning all of these things that have made me feel uncomfortable.

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