[stefy05]

i guess i needed a reality check. thanksz for your honesty. i do need to leave him alone and i do not want to jeopardize my relationship as much as drama as we’ve had im very happy were finally stable. i guess this new guy was juss a distraction. once again thankz ..

[stefy05]

OK so here it goes. Me and him were broken up for a month. in this time we still saw each other in class and still talked. we were both dating other people. we both knew it. i was still having a hard time dealing with the break up but showed him no emotion. One day my best friend calls me and tells me she sees him with another girl. it killed me all i could do was cry. the same day I also saw him myself with the other girl. he was driving by while i was walking. he stared at me and called me 15mins later and i decided not to answer. time went by he would call and txt me telling me he still cared and that the girls meant nothing that he loved me and so did i. even though i was talking to guys deep down i knew he was hu i still cared for. he saw me wit a guy (this town is kinda small) and got truly upset but we couldnt do anything since we were both single. so me and him kept contact but like a call once every 3 days or so to make sure we were still keeping each other around i guess.

so my mother kicks me out like 2 weeks ago.me and her have never really gotten along. our personalities are too alike.. i guess she sees herself in me wen she was younger and doesnt like it at all… and even though the other guys i was talking to offered me a place to stay at, i did not want anything bad happening to me. i only have 2 female friends and one lives 25mins from here so she was no help and the other one lives with her 2 kids mom and 2 brothers. i knew there woudlnt be no room for me to even sleep there one night. so who do i call? yess my ex. he of course picked me up right away and i slept in his bed next to him but nothing happened. i stayed at his house for 2 nights before i found a small apt my boss offered me at a cheap price. so i took it. wen i told him i was moving to a new place he was upset he didnt want me leaving but i knew with us not being together it would be crazy to stay there and hurt myself da way. as i saw things in his room such as a pack of condoms, an empty bottle of vodka and our pictures gone. it wasnt my place to say anything but it hurt me.

wen i moved to the new place he told me he wanted me back. he didnt want to loose me and he was ready to cut all the girls off and make me his number one that those girls did not come close to the way me and him were. he appreciated me more and was ready to make a full commitment . till dis day he claims the reason we broke up was not because of his family but all the fighting we were having and he needed a break from that. i felt as if he wanted me juss because i had my own apt now and he said he saw it like a new begginging for us . so i agreed he moved in and we came to an agreement we would split all
the bills half and i knew this would help me since my job is not the highest paying job out there. well he did cut every girl from the picture , we have been good never better i mean an argument here and there but we have grown as a couple. in dealing with problems and appreciating each other a lott more.. problem is i cut every guy out of the picture but theres this guy at my job hu i completely fell for and i find it so hard to cut him off.
he’s sweet, he treats me good, he cares for me, he does so many nice things for me but his situation is a little more complicated than mine.

he has a gf (well ex) pregnant. the girl got kicked out her house and is living with him. they are no longer together even though they live together. he has proven this to me.
he tells me he wants to start a relarionship and we saw each other last night behind my boyfriends back. i really like this guy. but i know i have no position to be with him and
it will never work out… i loveeee my boyfriend with all my heart. the break showed me how great he is and made me appreciate a lot of little things he does for me, i dont
know how to cut this guy off since we work together and i dnt want no animosity. he knows my situation he tells me to leave my boyfriend and date him. now me and the co worker
have not had anything more than a kiss but i feel so tempted at the same time so guilty. how could i do this to my boyfriend??? i love him and i am sure of that, my coworker
is juss temptation .. im torn here. how do i cut this guy off?? i know if i leave my boyfriend and my stability i have created with my bf for this guy I WILL regret it ..please
help. i guess this guy is too good to be true..kinda dreamy and that’s why is so hard to cut him off.

[stefy05]

Ok.. so we had a very mature conversation in which i told him how i felt, how his family (in my point of view) had made our relationship come to an end. at first he said if i really loved him i would stick to him. then after i told him how many fights we would have if he was at a family party or reunion anytime how it would bother me not to be there and i would feel uncomfortable. i also told him how dissapointed i was for no support shown. he said he was sorry but he felt like he had to choose and did not want to do so. he also said when things calmed down he would talk to his cousin. anyways since we do ride to school together for now (since my car broke down 2 months ago). we have agreed to keep it friendly and stay in touch at least until the semester is over (in may). we only see each other in rides to school. but im having a hard time not texting him as much as i used to. like he’ll text me wat u doing? and after i txt him back. he juss doesnt txt back.. it makes me soo mad but i cant argue since we are not together. i know he loves me and this is as hard for me as for him but is hard. how can i hold myself back from making contact with him like i used to and still be able to be friends? .. i guess i juss care for him so much..!

[stefy05]

Thanks april . I really love this guy and I was hoping things could work out but now everytime he’s around his cousin or family member he ignores my calls and texts. And if he picks up he doesn’t care wat I have to say . It got me so upset I called him crying saying how it bothered me he couldn’t even txt me to see if he was ok. Then I hung up n nothing no text no call nothing. This is a deal breaker for me since I sense a lot of arguments to come due to his family. I’m so hurt n it sucks but I know this is the only solution. I’m juss sad it came to this. Thanx anyways

[stefy05]

update: Ok so he told he he had lost his phone. that he was very upset about the break up and did not want to loose me. now im even more confused than before. i dont like the fact that he owuld not comfort me yesterday and i dont know if im overreacting over this or we should really break up over this. is juss so hard. help!

[stefy05]

Ok so yesterday I go over my boyfriends house for easter. I love his family n they are very cool with me. They treat me as if I’m family. Well I had went over with my younger sister. We were there for a while. One of his cousins is a little older like 29 and she has a teenage daughter. Well I made a comment to her daughter about her clothes such as “you think you’re cute” not in a bad way at all she rolled her eyes and walked away. I didn’t pay her any mind but her mom (my boyfriends cousin) then looks at me and says that I looked at her daughter wrong and that me n my sister maade a face at her. She got mad and walked away. I thought it was really childish and went up to her and said I would never say anything baad but if I had something to say I would tell her. Her attitude made me very upset. So I told my boyfriend to take me home. And we left and as were leaving I felt bad. I didn’t like being accused of it and I told him I didn’t want to go hom. He said ill call u later. Like really? I’m upset and you juss leave me? So I told him that bothered me and I guess his family said something to him and we ended breaking up. He reminded me of my father when he used to leave us for his family. I didn’t expect him to jump at my side but at least comfort me. Well we had broke up before and he would always call me and everythinh. Not this time. I was hurting bad and wanted to stop texting him . Since he wasn’t replying anyway. So I went on facebook and made a page. (We had agreed on neither one having a facebook since it brings drama) . I also felt lonely and started texting my exboyfriend but still no good. I just want my pain to go away. We have a routine and we ride to class together. Well he didn’t pick me up and I didn’t see him at school. I called and txtd him but no response. I just wish I could forget him. Not txt him or call him. He’s the only friend I have and he’s giving me the cold shoulder. We have been thru so much and is crazy this really broke us up for good. How do I get over him?

[stefy05]

THANK YOU SO MUCH! …

what a relief. to hear that makes me feel wayyy better… i mean i don’t have feelings for this guy and truthfully it made me realize how good i have things with my boyfriend i guess i was pushing him away to feel a little better… but thanks april you have some great advice…

[stefy05]

Ok so i have aq big problem. me and my boyfriend got into a petty argument last saturday.. in which he left out of town to his brothers house in a nearby state to get his head straight..we decided to take a break meanwhile… the problem is i was so mad i started talking to an old crush.. went over his apartment and we ended up having sex…my boyfriend came back to try and make things up… i told him i only want to be friends for now… i feel so guilty and i dont know whether to tell him or not.. what do i do??? i love him so much.. i do not want to loose him.
I need advice.

[stefy05]

Thank you so much even thought I don’t think I explained myself in the last line. I dont wanna end up heartbroken or homeless if we do break up while living together. But you’re right and for now is better to just wait and let time tell.
Thanks 😀

[stefy05]

Thanks so much,

With that being said. He’s been mentioning moving in together. I want to move in a house or an apartment just me and him. He lives with his mother (a single mother) and he doesn’t want to leave her alone just yet since he helps with the rent. I stay over his house one night a week and his mother loves me, but he wants to get a house with at least 2 or 3 bedrooms so we can all live together. He wants to do this until we finish college (in a year) and then he can be able to afford to get us an apartment and help his mom with some money for her own apartment also. I feel like he’s a momma’s boy and needs to grow up and separate from her, is going to happen one day or another. Am I being inconsiderate? or is this moving together thing a bad idea? I just don’t want problems to happen because we’re all going to live together. I also dont want to rush the living together idea since we’re so young. I guess I don’t want to end up heartbroken or even homeless if we do break up.

What are your suggestions?

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