Did my last post come up then, didnt get a confirmation 😕

I clicked on that link and I had a look at the chapters and looked on what you wrote as a preview on it and even though it does touch one issue with me, which is confidence. I know all the other parts of it I follow (going by all the chapters that you’ve listed and spoke about). I could be wrong, but I didnt see a chapter on how to improve your confidence when it came to kissing or being in the bedroom. Which is why I think women run a mile as they only want a bloke with confidence dont they.

Is this what saying? i’ll make it look like a math sum.

Buying the book = Advancing ones knowledge, which means after a few attempts you’ll definately succeed that = Getting confidence and that = My mind going blank when it comes to thoughts (negative ones so i’ll act how a normal person would and that = me just making the right moves (whether its kissing techniques or being more intimate physically or even if its just telling them how i feel) and as by then i’ve got the confidence and doing the stuff without even thinking and treating it like if its like something you do in everyday life. And doing all that = success.

Is that right or is there more to it thats in the book?

I read April’s advice and there’s good stuff in there, but also a few blind spots. I’ll be blunt and practical.

She’s right that not having kissed anyone yet isn’t a defect. It’s normal and nothing to rush or announce like it’s a medical history. Confidence is attractive, but so is honesty when it matters.

Don’t feel you must hide it. There’s a difference between broadcasting “I’ve never kissed anyone!” as a mood-killer and quietly telling someone you’re nervous so they can be gentle. If you’re genuinely anxious, a quick, soft line like, “Heads up I’m kinda nervous about this, would you mind going slow?” gives them useful info without killing the vibe.

The “let the man take the lead” bit assumes a traditional dynamic that isn’t universal anymore. If you want him to lead, great. If you want to take initiative, great too. The kiss is a two-person moment; both people should feel comfortable and consenting. If a “lead” feels pushy, pull back. Consent > gender scripts.

Don’t over-prepare, but it’s also okay to practice in your head or with a close friend. Rehearsing what you’ll say or breathing through nerves isn’t fake, it’s smart. The goal is to be present, not robotic.

Small practical tips: lean in slowly, keep your lips relaxed, close your eyes, and match the rhythm. If you want a line to use, try: “I’m a little nervous but I want this,” then smile. That’s honest and sexy.

Use April’s calm-down message, skip the grand admission, but don’t swallow your needs. Be willing, be safe, and be you. If you want, I can draft a couple of short one-liners you can use in the moment to feel grounded pick “playful,” “honest,” or “cool.” Which one?

First thing you need to understand: being 24 and not having kissed anyone doesn’t mean you’re behind. It just means your situation hasn’t lined up yet. Some people rush into physical stuff just to “keep up,” and they end up regretting it because there was no connection, no respect, no feeling. You didn’t do that. So you’re not late you’re just unrushed. That’s a very different thing.

Now, what is happening is you’re psyching yourself out. The longer you hold onto the idea of “the first kiss,” the heavier it becomes. It turns into a performance in your head instead of just a moment between two people who like each other. The key is to stop treating it like an exam you have to prepare for. A kiss isn’t technique first it’s proximity, confidence, and timing.

Focus on building genuine connection with someone. Get comfortable being close to them sitting beside them, talking in a low tone, making eye contact a second longer than usual. The kiss usually happens naturally when the energy is right. You don’t need a script. You just lean in slowly, give them the chance to lean in too. If they do, the rest handles itself.

If you want a shortcut: stop thinking “I’ve never kissed before.” Think, “I don’t need to rush. But when the moment comes, I’ll move with confidence.” That mindset alone changes everything because confidence isn’t about experience, it’s about presence.