[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend got drunk the other night and got into a fight. I said something smart and he got mad and held me down and spanked me on the butt. I ran from him and begged him to stop and he wouldn’t. Then i got mad and through a drink in his face and that was a huge mistake. He proceeded to pull me by the hair of the head and beat me with his belt on my arms, chest and back. Finally he stopped and told me to go sleep in the other room and told me if I called the police that he would get out eventually and I would be sorry. I went to the bedroom and cried hoping he would fall asleep. But then he came in there and with a gun and put it to my head digging into my face and scalp and told me if I called the police that he would kill me or my parents or my first born child ten years down the road. I just begged him to put the gun down and he finally did but then he started pointing it in his own mouth, telling me that he wanted to kill himself. So I finally talked him out of that and then he begged me for about thirty minutes to kill him. I just kept refusing so he finally stopped but then he locked me in the bedroom with him and told me if I tried to leave he would shoot me. He said if I called the police that he would let them shoot him. I finally let him go to sleep and I got up and made a pot of coffee and he woke up hungover and apologized. Now, I just keep replaying this over and over in my head. He keeps apologizing but I just keep thinking that I will end up in a body bag. We have never had a fight until now. I have lived with him for over a year with no problems. I am financially dependent on him, enrolled in college and hours away from friends and family. I don’t really know if I have a question, I just needed to hear someone else’s opinion about this. I’m just in total shock, I have never experienced anything like this and I am ashamed.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You need to go to the police, immediately, and report what happened. Your boyfriend is extremely dangerous, and if you don’t do something, you will end up dead, and if it’s not you who ends up dead, he will kill someone else. He is violent, abusive and disturbed. The fact that he has a gun, and used it on you the way he did is of extreme concern. You are not safe if you are with him, and you are not safe if you do not report his actions to the police and ask for their help. The police are the people who’s help you need now.

Forgot about being financially depending on this guy. I know that is one of your concerns, but you won’t be going to college or living in an apartment if he kills you. You’ll be six feet under. College and apartments take a big back seat to your health and safety. Get your priorities in order.

You are in danger, and you need to go to the police immediately. Do not go back to the apartment — even if it means losing every single thing in the apartment. If you want your things back, ask the police to help you get them.

Please let me know what happens.

[Ella Marie]

This is really abuse and possible to happen again. Choose your safety and leave him. The situation is so dangerous so please seek help to a family or friend now.

[Lamine]

If you don’t get far away from, you’re either going to end up in a body bag or being questioned by the police about how he ended up dead.

My point is, they police are gonna get involved at some point. The only question is how bad do you want things to be when they do, this bad or you dead bad?

If you’re being held back because he pays your coillege tuition, remember you can’t go to college dead.

[Member]

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