Me and my ex began to dating more than 4 years ago, 2 years ago we get into a relationship exclusive, since that he knew I had plans to move to another country with my family so we just stayed together relax, knowing it would be end, he always was very afraid to commitment and had broke up two long term relationships before because of that (4 years each), he always told me if I stayed we will end broking anyway (he is 29).
Finally I moved 6 months ago, although we broke up when I move, the first 3 months we were acting same as always, I even went to visit him (he needs a Visa to come),but no plans for future together. I had a bad time here because I missed him and he acted kind of indifferent, so I decide to move on after the visit, and start making friends and going out.
I met many guys but there was one guy I kept seeing first I was clear that I just wanted to be friends with him, although he wants me for real, we started going out, I was honest about what I was going through, and without matters he was (and still is) SO especial with me and a month later we began to date , I don’t know why I told my ex I’ve met this guy, and we should back off, as he ever seemed to want to be with me and never thought in doing something for a future together ( he said he’d just like to come for visit), and although he told me to go there and he will pay everything to see me (just for visiting).
I was afraid to be hurt, now I’ve began to have feelings for the new guy, and my ex is seeing someone too since 1 month, he says is no one special, but until few days he insist that I should go, I don’t know what to do, cause what I have now seems so perfect like I’ve ever wanted, but there just being 3 months, and I still love and feeling something for my ex, and he is so far from me. I’ve been not so delicate with the situation, me ex still want me to go there but doesn’t say anything clear about us, and the new gut wants to get into a serious relationship with me. but I want to do the right thing for me and for them. what to do?
