[sweetpea37]

Recently I sent an email to the man I am cuurently involved with telling him that I no longer could tolerate his game playing and when he felt he wanted to be involved with a woman that didn’t play games he could go ahead and look me up.

Now mind you this was written only because he has in the past pulled disappearing acts on me before and thought that this was what was going on once again

Two days after I sent the email he writes back with this response:

Sorry I’ve haven’t been in contact for the past couple of weeks, but have been preoccupied,with my father having had a stroke a couple of weekends back and is still in ICU. My brother, Sean and I are handling things for him and watching after my mother.
I’ll be in touch. can’t say when…

Go on with your life. we will always have what we had….

Take care and all the best,

Now that I know what the real deal is as to why he didn’t write sooner(doesn’t excuse his behavior under any circumstances)I feel like the biggest fool walking and now feel as though I may have lost someone that I truly in my heart LOVE.

The two lines that have me puzzled are these:

I’ll be in touch. can’t say when…

Go on with your life. we will always have what we had….

The first one tells me that he has a lot going on(which is understandable)and that he’ll contact me as soon as he is able and the second one he’s telling me to go on with my life.

IMO when someone says to move on with your life it means it’s over and you don’t say I’ll be in touch.

Secondly if he really wanted things to be over why in the world didn’t he mention that he would be returning my keys?

Which leads me to believe that what was said on his part was out of frustaration and being overwhelmed.

Does anyone think I’ll hear from him again when things calm down?

[confusedguyhere2011]

This seems a lil complicated. Every guy is different but i think he will contact you again. I kind of did the same thing as he did. I wouldn’t contact my g/f sometimes for days or weeks. It wasn’t because i didn’t care about her. At the time I wanted to hangout with my friends but also have a g/f. She didn’t like goingout all the time & i did. I didn’t go out & hit on girls, i just liked goingout, having a few beers with my buddies & having a good time. Maybe he is very overwhelmed at this time. I think though since his dad is sick that he would want to talk to you, just for the fact that you can be a friend & help him trhough this tough time. I think he does care about you & will get back in contact with you. That’s just my opinion. I know it can be hard all the waiting, wondering & worrying. Hang in there though

[sweetpea37]

IMO I think you are as right as the other people that have told me the same thing.

It is VERY hard to just have to sit back and take a huge back seat to someone that you care deeply about and as frustrating as it is i have no intention of up and leaving this man.

If I did that what kind of friend would I really be? One that’s full of BS. and that’s not who I am.

When I say I am your friend I am that friend to the end. In BAD and GOOD.

[Anonymous]

Holyyyy cow girl I love your question… Ok I’ll give you the facts whether you like it or not you needma wakeup call. He hasn’t contacted you because he is no longer interested in you or should I say attracted to you period. The remarks at the end is basically saying I want to keep you around as a just in case thing as it’s usually better to have some backup than it would be to eliminate you for good. Women do this often they will say I just have been very busy lately but send me a text sometime and then always respond way later or not at all and purposely prevent the guy from making any moves what so ever. He is doing the same thing at the moment and he has total control over you he knows he can come back to you at any time he pleases but he doesn’t because your not what makes him happy in life and I’m sorry its that way. Pick up your losses and find a new man to eventually love who will reciprocate you can be attracted to more than one man it just takes time dear.

[ishi]

In my opinion, I think you have to end your relationship with that man. I don’t want to sound rude but I think he will just do this stuff again and again. He’ll take things for granted since he knows that you’re just there waiting for him. So he’ll just come back every time he needs you.

[sweetpea37]

I have read so many times people getting upset when they don’t HEAR what they want to hear.

i on the other hand don’t because we are all entitled to our opinions.

With that being said i have come to learn that in life the people we take for “granted” are ALWAYS the people that at the end of the day are the ones we come to realize we need the most in our lives.

This fool is no different.

he can go on about his business and with his life and you know what? Sooner or later he WILL realize what a fool he has REALLY been when A)he comes knocking and gets a slammed door in his face and B) when he finds that friends like me are VERY hard to come by.

His loss in the long run.

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[sweetpea37]

I’m sorry I did this. i realized my mistake after the fact and couldn’t correct it.

Won’t happen in the future.

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