[waitingtoolong]

Hi April,

I am a 37 years young and have been with the same man for the last 6.5 years. The problem is, I want to have a baby before it’s too late. We have skimmed this topic; he knows that I desire this very much, and although it’s not a huge life desire of his, he said he would do this for me. The thing is, I want someone who desires the whole process and is passionate about it as much as I am, not just after the baby comes. I haven’t told him this, but I often wonder if I’m asking for too much?

We don’t have the best communication skills as a couple, I find we don’t sit down and talk about dreams, hopes, goals at all, and I feel like I am on the fence about whether or not we are a good match in the long run. We get along well, and it’s comfortable and stable and he’s always been faithful and loyal and a rock when I needed him most. But there is something missing– the edge, the passion…the dreaming together.

Am I being too picky? Time is running out for me soon to have a family, and I don’t know what to do.

Thanks for listening 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want to have a family, and a husband, then you need to find a man who wants the same thing. It’s that simple. The guy you’re with doesn’t want what you want. He’s lukewarm at best. Stop wasting valuable time, and find a man who wants what you want, too! You’re wasting valuable time with the wrong guy. 😳

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[waitingtoolong]

Hi April,
Thanks for your reply. I guess my question is- how long is too long to wait? There have been some financial hardships in our lives, and he always said he wanted to have his “ducks in a row” before there were kids involved. He just started a salary paid position with the company he works for(no more commission), so I know a big load is off his back. He always felt he couldn’t plan or even talk about planning the future until he had this in place. Should I give myself an ultimatum about us, or do you still have the same opinion about my situation?
Thanks again.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Thanks for your reply. I guess my question is- how long is too long to wait?[/quote]

If you want to get married and have a baby and you’re 37, you’ve waited way too long. Six years? 😯 Yes, you’re missing the boat.

When you start dating again, don’t waste your time with anyone who isn’t ready now for marriage and kids. If he doesn’t have his ducks in a row on the first date, you need to move on and find someone who does. Your biological clock is ticking and you should respect it. 😉 Date smart — which means knowing what you want and focusing on that.

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