[stevew]

Good morning April,

My fiancee, we are both 25, joined a modelling agency 2 1/2 years ago. She’s always had a great body and is tall, so i thought it was a great idea when she suggested having a portfolio of fashion and swimsuit shots done and then signed to this agency. Over the next few months she only got one minor job through the agency.

She was contacted on FB by a guy claiming to be a agent and he asked to meet up with her, and even though i was worried she went ahead and met him. Immediately after she told me was going to sign with him, and she began spending a lot of time with him and his circle of friends. There was a noticeable change in her, her clothes very very revealing and she stopped seeing her long time friends.

Well in January this year she told me, in passing conversation, that she was having breast augmentation surgery in March. She was stand offish with me when i questioned her on why she wanted them doing, considering she had a body most girls would die for, and how much it was costing.

I went away with work and when i came back in March she had had the procedure, with her new size being masive on her body. In June she told me her agent was paying for her to get a portfolio of topless and nude shots done, which i went mad at, and it was then that she admitted that he had also paid for breast implants.

I found out that this guy is an agent in the glamour and adult entertainment industries, primarily in the latter. In the last two months he has got her work doing nude photoshoots, and i hardly see her and she seems to be influenced by him immensely.

Please can i have your thoughts April? Is she being taken down a career path by him, all be it willingly? Has the person i once knew changed into another girl?

Thank you. Steve

[Ask April Masini]

Your fiance is 25 years old and she’s a legal and willing adult, so don’t blame her agent for her behavior. She knows how to say no, and if she wanted to, she would. That said, I can understand why you’d want to blame someone — because your fiance is most definitely changing — and not for the better. It sounds like she’s getting into the porn industry and she doesn’t want to be straight up with you. 🙁 She is definitely becoming someone else, and sadly, I don’t think it will be long before she cheats on you by crossing the line from doing nude shots to having sex on camera.

This is no longer your Ms. Right. 😳 I’m very sorry.

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[stevew]

Thank you for your honest reply April.

I read your reply and digested your thoughts and spoke to her last night when she got in.

I said to her ‘You originally wanted to do fashion modelling and now you have big breast implants paid for by your agent and do erotic nude photoshoots, and you can’t see how much you have changed?’ She was very nonchelant and just said ‘this is who i am’. I also asked her where she had been all day and her response was she had been with Tom (the agent).

I asked her what was happening to her and is she going to be doing porn, and she admitted to me that she would love to. I asked her where it leaves us and she said ‘i don’t know to be honest with you’.

She went into another room, was on the phone for a few minutes giggling and then came to see me and told me she would be moving to her agents for a ‘few days’ to think things through, she packed a bag and went.

[Ask April Masini]

It’s pretty clear that she’s sleeping with her agent and she’s going to be leaving you shortly. 😳 I’m sorry if this hurts and disappoints you, but maybe you can start to see that you’re going to be dodging a bullet. Whoever she was when you started dating her is not who she is now. Your Ms. Right is out there — but your fiance is not her. 🙁

[stevew]

You are right April. She text me this morning to tell me she is finishing our relationshio and after a few exchanges admitted she has started a relationship with her agent because ‘it’s good for both of them’.

It’s heartbreaking.

[Ask April Masini]

It is heartbreaking — but only if you hold onto your fantasy of who she used to be. [i]The reality[/i] is that she’s not Ms. Right, and I’d like to see you balance your sadness with some joy at being set free from a bad relationship and having the ability to find true love with a compatible Ms. Right!

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