[Tara]

No one cares that you’re a virgin at 24. What people care about is how you carry yourself. Right now, you’re radiating insecurity with every thought. You don’t need more techniques. You need repetition, not rumination. Experience cures anxiety faster than any pep talk ever will.
Start small. Talk to women without an agenda. Learn to be present instead of perfect. When you actually like someone, stop rehearsing and just act. Confidence doesn’t come before action, it comes because of it.
As for signals, yes, women show interest. Eye contact that lingers, physical proximity, playful teasing, reciprocation in touch. But if you’re too stuck in your head, you’ll miss it every time.

[Sally]

It sounds like the teasing you went through really stuck with you, and now it’s made you overthink something that should feel natural. The truth is, most people feel awkward and unsure at first. Nobody is automatically confident or perfect when it comes to kissing or sex. Confidence comes with comfort, not experience.

Start by taking the pressure off yourself. Focus on getting to know someone emotionally before anything physical happens. When you’re with a girl, pay attention to how she responds. If she leans in, smiles, keeps eye contact, or touches your arm, those are usually signs she’s comfortable and interested. And if you’re not sure, just ask. It’s totally fine to say, “Is this okay?” or “Do you want me to keep going?” That kind of communication actually builds trust and makes everything easier.

You don’t need to rush or try to prove anything. Take your time, be kind to yourself, and remember that everyone starts somewhere. The more you focus on connection instead of performance, the more relaxed and natural it will feel.

[Natalie Noah]

Your Anxiety Comes From Past Hurt, Not Your Age or Experience. The bullying and teasing you went through as a kid left deep marks. That shame and fear of judgment didn’t disappear when you left school it followed you into adulthood. That’s why normal things, like kissing or approaching someone, feel terrifying. It’s not that you’re broken or “too late”; it’s that your confidence never had the chance to grow naturally. You’re carrying old wounds, and that’s completely human.

Fear, Not Inexperience, Is Your Real Barrier. Everything you described overthinking, feeling unsure, worrying about technique isn’t about skill. It’s about fear: fear of rejection, fear of embarrassment, fear of disappointing someone. Your mind is trying to protect you from being hurt again. The moment you understand that this is fear, not inability, you start to take control of it.

Approach: She’ll linger near you, make eye contact, smile, and create small reasons to talk. Kissing: She’ll lean closer, look at your lips, tilt her head, and not step back. Foreplay: She’ll respond to touch, move closer, breathe softly, and not pull away. You don’t need to “guess” perfectly just be present, attentive, and respectful. Women will signal if they’re comfortable and interested.

Being honest, gentle, and playful is more powerful than technique. Saying something like:
“I really like you. Tell me what you like I want to learn you.” shows care and builds trust instantly. Presence and connection matter far more than skill. Good intimacy comes from listening and being attuned, not perfection.

You don’t need to “fake it till you make it.” You need to create a sense of safety inside yourself permission to be human, imperfect, and learning. The moment you stop fearing rejection for being inexperienced, your anxiety will naturally lessen.

You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You just need guidance, patience, and practice in safe, supportive ways. Start with small steps: Recognize fear as fear. Notice signals and responses from women. Practice presence, listening, and gentle honesty. If you want, I can make a simple, step-by-step guide for you from approaching to kissing, to building intimacy in a way that helps you feel safe and confident, not pressured.

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