It sounds like you’re hurt that your boyfriend didn’t want you to have the baby, so you’re blaming him — but instead of blaming him for what you feel deep down (loss, betrayal, etc.), you’re blaming him for flirting with someone while you were pregnant. The reason it feels silly for you to write this down is because you’re projecting your feelings about his attentions to you during the pregnancy onto this flirtation he had with another woman. Deep down you know that you’re not angry about his flirting. You’re angry because he didn’t want the baby with you. You’re probably angry at yourself. And you’re taking it out on him.
The reality of flirting is that it isn’t a crime and it isn’t even necessarily a threat to a relationship. In fact, flirting with someone else can even be a sign of confidence in your relationship — in other words, if he feels confident enough that the two of you are a solid couple, he can have harmless fun by flirting, knowing it’s meaningless.
So separate out your feelings from his intentions. If you were really mad at him for something else, the flirting is just an excuse for you to berate him.
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