[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over half a year now, and recently i’ve been feeling a little left out… he seems to have a lot of fun with his friends when I’m not around, and when I am there, i feel like the new kid at school whom people talk to because they feel like they should… he also has deep conversations with his friends, but when me and him talk we never seem to really talk about anything besides the usual “how was your day?” conversation … I’ll admit that I’m a little jealous of his friends… I’m starting to feel lonely whenever he starts talking about things he and his friends do because it makes me feel like i can’t compare to them when it comes to being interesting and having fun … I want to have a deeper connection with my boyfriend, and I want to be able to become friends with his friends, but i just don’t seem to fit in very well with them… what should i do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you put yourself out a little more with his friends, you may find that they’ll give a little more back. Try inviting them to your home, going the extra mile, and extending yourself more than you have with his friends. You haven’t mentioned any specific reasons why you’re not closer with his friends so I’m going to assume it’s not a conflict, but instead, that you just don’t know them as well as he does and getting to know his friends takes time, patience, and tenacity, so stick with it!

As for your feeling that your relationship with your boyfriend isn’t intimate enough (and I mean intellectually and emotionally, not physically or sexually), consider opening up to him more about your deeper hopes and dreams for your life and things you’re working on in your own intra-personal life. If you open up, it gives him permission to open up, too.

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