[lucifer]

We were in this relationship for 1.5 years,when she broke up.the reason was that we had too many fights and she could not see a future.I love her.I did not realise what was going on in her mind so i couldnt fix this in time.i used to get angry in fights .now that i have realised ,its too late.i want us to be together.she said she does not want us and she thinks there is no love.Trust me when i say she was once very madly in love with me,we had great time and she thought i was the best.i think i took her for granted.she still admitted that she felt top of the world with me ,but,now she doesnt feel that way and has no hope in getting back.we alk to each other ,but she says only friends.now we talk like normal friends.its been 2 months now.i want us to be together.please help me.i tried convincing her i would never fight.help me

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like the relationship is over. After a year and a half, you’ve both given it a good try. Sometimes things just don’t work out and it’s good if you can learn from what caused the breakup, but you don’t always get a second chance. I don’t think she’s interested in a reunion. That said…. you’re in the friend zone now, and sometimes the best way to allow someone to miss you is to not see them or have contact with them — especially when you do it with kindness. Tell her that you really want her back, but that you can’t be friends, and you’re going to cut off contact because you care too much about her. If she sees you thriving and being the kind of man she wants, she may want you back. But if she sees you as someone who’s needy and hasn’t changed, it’s not going to work.

I hope that helps.

[lucifer]

I have stopped being needy.I dont think that love between us has vanished and i seriously want her back.I did cut off contact for a few days ,she had called me during this time to ask about me.My friends suggested that i should begin talking to her ,so i began.But,i dont bring the breakup in the conversation. She is just lost and i want to take all the rights steps to have her believe in me.This will take time ,i know and im readysShe met a small accident ,so i call her once in a day to enquire about her.when her leg was paining alott she had texted me about it.i cant explain this in words,but there is something ,but ,it will take much efforts to make her realise that and i dont want to go wrong.

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like you now what you want to do. 🙂

[lucifer]

Thank you
But im scared most of the times thinking what if i go wrong.I dont want to lose her.She had told me to move on and be happy with someone.I want to bring back all the love.Any advice would help.If love was ever true,does it really find a way?

[Ask April Masini]

[quote]…. you’re in the friend zone now, and sometimes the best way to allow someone to miss you is to not see them or have contact with them — especially when you do it with kindness. Tell her that you really want her back, but that you can’t be friends, and you’re going to cut off contact because you care too much about her. If she sees you thriving and being the kind of man she wants, she may want you back.[/quote]

Why not try this advice, above, that I gave you?

[lucifer]

How long do i n8t contact ?i had tried this for 2 weeks or so.

[Ask April Masini]

For as long as it takes. 😉 Two weeks isn’t really enough time for her to see you as being successful, confident, and attractive to other women — since the break up.

[lucifer]

Hi ,my friend had convinced her that you try one more time and she did agree to it.he told her that you did good by breaking up ,he would improve but everyone deserves a second chance.she was convinced.she told him i will see if he has changed.after 2 days she texted him that no ,its over.even if he becomes my dream boy ,no.i dont want a relationship.i dont feel for him or anyone else too.
:c;:(

[Ask April Masini]

You’ll feel a lot better if you move on and stop torturing yourself by holding out hope for someone who’s crystal clear that she’s not interested. Rejection is painful, but when you keep going back to the same person for more rejection, you’re really hurting yourself. Next! 😉

[lucifer]

You are very correct.And i am not hurting myself.
I think she is afraid to face this if it happens all over again.I ,ll tell you when (if) we get back.

[lucifer]

I feel there is a way which i am not able to figure out. c:
All i can do is improve myself,be positive about us and enjoy life and thank you:)

[Ask April Masini]

You’re very welcome. Good luck to you. Stay healthy! 😀

[lucifer]

Should i talk to her often ,or should i not.I dont give in myself completely but what do i do?She said you would find someone better.

[Ask April Masini]

I don’t think you should talk to her. Time to move on.

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