I don’t know if I can still forgive my boyfriend after catching him having a relationship with my friend. We’ve been together for almost 3 years. We met at a bar when I was hanging out with my friends. I introduced him to my circle of friends, and one of them was Joyce.
At first, everything seemed fine between me and Joyce, but last month I started noticing something strange about the way the two of them acted whenever our group went out together. At first, I ignored my instincts.
One night, Tom (my boyfriend) got drunk. I stayed at his apartment that night, and while he was asleep, I saw a text from Joyce on his phone asking if I had already been dropped off and if Tom had made it back to his apartment safely. She didn’t know that I was also staying there that night.
I became extremely suspicious. Why would Joyce send Tom a message like that? Why did she need to know whether my boyfriend had already gone home?
Because of my doubts, I checked Tom’s phone, and that’s where I read all of their conversations. I discovered that they had already been having a relationship for 4 months.
I didn’t know how I could face Tom after that. I went home that night crying.
The next day, Tom called me and asked why I suddenly left. That’s when I told him everything I had discovered. He apologized, came to our house, and begged me not to break up with him. He promised he would stop seeing Joyce. He said that I’m the one he chooses and that he has no real feelings for Joyce.
I want to forgive him, but the question in my mind is: how can I forget the betrayal they did to me?
Can a relationship recover after emotional cheating? Is it possible that one day the pain and betrayal of what he did to me will disappear from my mind?
