[Nicole]

There’s something bothering my mind right now, so I want to ask for advice. My boyfriend and I have only been together for 2 months, but I’ve already started noticing some unusual behavior from him. I’m 20 and he’s 23.

Sometimes when we eat together, he can’t put his cellphone down, like he always has to reply to whoever he’s chatting with. When we’re outside, he also doesn’t like it when I hold his arm. It makes me feel like he’s not proud to have me as his girlfriend.
He also doesn’t let me know the password to his phone, and I’m not allowed to touch it. He’s sweet and thoughtful to me in other ways, it’s just that there are certain behaviors that feel like a turn-off.

I want to know, What are the red flags in a relationship? Are there certain behaviors and attitudes that you should observe in your partner?

[Prince]

You’ve only been together for two months, so things like passwords or not letting you handle his phone probably can’t really be demanded at this stage since that’s part of his privacy too, especially since your relationship is still new.

I think you might be becoming a bit controlling in that area. As for him not letting you hold his arm, why don’t you ask him directly? Actually, it would be good if you confront him early while the issue is still new so you can address the problem right away together.

[Charles]

Maybe he’s hiding something, which is why he’s acting like that. Why don’t you confront him so you don’t keep overthinking about his behavior? You’ve only been together for two months, so it would be better to address the issue you’re seeing early before it gets worse.

[Roxanne]

It’s possible that he is hiding something, or maybe he just wants privacy and is setting boundaries since your relationship is still new.
It would be better if you talk to him calmly about his behavior so you can understand it clearly. Maybe he is also willing to adjust if you communicate with him properly.

[Gladzzz]

You should talk to him if something is already bothering you—for your peace of mind. Maybe he’s also willing to adjust for you. You’ve only been together for two months, and if even simple issues like this can’t be resolved, what more when bigger problems come?

A relationship won’t last if things continue like that.

[Member]

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