I dont know how to help my boyfriend of 5 months. He is 31 yrs old and im 29. He was engaged 5 years ago, and was single for a loong time, pretty much has only dated around before me, up until this past summer. What ever this girl did to him, really messed him up big time!
He has a lot of insecurities with himself because he is considered to be obese too.Something else that is an issue for him, and partially me is that he has pre-ejaculation issues when having sex, yes even after 5 months. He said its been this way for a loong time( Dont know if it was before his ex). He told me a month into dating he doesnt like sex, and i thought he was just trying to be a gentleman!
Here’s the thing… He would rather get me off by oral sex or manual stimulation in the long run he told me the other night.He is very good at what he does haha and very generous and i told him, as long as we try every now and then, sex isnt the most important thing in the world, its everything that leads up to it, and if he last for 3 min or 5 then thats ok with me at this point. He enjoys when i touch him/oral/etc.. so i know that he is into it, i think its just the sex thing that im trying to figure out on how to help him.
We have tried numbing creams and condoms.. him ejaculationg before sex, and other things.. i dont know how else to help him. I dont think i can, now that im thinking about it.
I mean im hoping this wont go on forever, if were supposed to be together and and he can work on himself, if he is willing to try, When he looses a good amount of weight maybe his self esteem will go up, he’ll get healthier mind and body, and this will help him with this issue, the good thing is he is starting a strict low carb diet after Christmas and im praying that he will see the man that i see in him because he really is a sweetheart and such a great person and i dont think its a deal breaker at this point in our relationship but it can be months from now if things dont change…
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