[Anonymous]

Me and a boy talk constantly online, texting/phone calling, skype, etc
after meeting in february. We see each other about once at month at
shows. We flirt but I take it as him joking, however one night he was
slightly “tipsy” online and basically told me he’s in love with me. I
have told him hed be my first kiss (only being secretly serious) and
at the show the other night we cuddled, held hands, and he was kissing
me all over except my mouth and right before we said goodbye we
kissed. Now he is hardly talking to me….its an effort to get one
word out and he hasn’t mentioned our night…. I just want like
closure of sorts and to know what it all means, because I really think
there was something there. I can’t get him off my mind; I feel like
I’m being an irrational mess about it, but I really care for him,
please help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sometimes closure comes when you understand what happened. You can’t always get the kind of closure you want. I can help you understand what happened. He liked you enough to kiss you, but not enough to ask you out on a date or have a consistent relationship. You liked him more, and wanted more, but he wasn’t up to it.

For future…..it’s always best to let the guy do the work. In other words, don’t tell him you’d like him to be your first kiss or anything else. When you do that you’re making it too easy for him. Men who want you will chase you and work for you. When you take that opportunity away from them you don’t get to see who really wants a relationship with you.

I know you care about him and you wanted more, and you thought there was something profound there, but the reality is he isn’t ready or isn’t willing to pursue a relationship with you.

I hope that helps.

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