[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months (more if you count all the time we were unofficially together) and I absolutely adore being with him. Sure, we bicker a lot but its just because we are both extremely hardheaded. It was long distance over the summer seeing as we are college students but we each made a lot of effort to see each other and we’ve had a lot of fun this year. Last weekend, after about two weeks of not fighting whatsoever we pretty much fought the weekend away. On Sunday that weekend, we were watching a movie with some friends and we got in a ridiculous fight via texting and we came in my room to talk and he suggested we might need a break. I convinced him otherwise, got him to talk about it (he claimed he was worn out from fighting) and he agreed we should try. The next morning he texted me to apologize and say that he really wanted to try and he asked me to hang out like everyday or at least would text me. Things still felt a little weird but I figured it was just us being on egg shells. This weekend came and we had a lot of fun, we didn’t fight about anything at all, and everything was GREAT. Sunday morning came and he acted a little weird (but I was sick, he was tired, blah blah) and when I took him home he said he wanted to hang out that day and I needed to come back and get him but basically I told him later I didn’t feel good and he acted sorta weird anyways. He just seemed like after all he didn’t really want to hang out but like an hour before he had seemed to want to. Maybe he was mad I didn’t come get him like I said I would. I realize that throughout our relationship there are plenty of times he has acted weird but basically I’m still on egg shells. I’m always afraid when he wants to hang out he wants to have that talk.

I guess what I’m asking is should I be on egg shells? How do I stop being on egg shells? Do I have anything to worry about?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You shouldn’t be “walking on eggshells” or constantly worrying that you’re doing something wrong. You also shouldn’t be chronically fighting unless there’s something real to fight about. Why is it that you fight so much?

If you’re both hard headed, then the question is: Do you have enough times when you’re not being hard headed with each other that you [i]both[/i] enjoy each other?

Do you walk on eggshells with other people or just him?

Let me know and I’ll try and help you more.

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